NorwegianDJ
Master Don Juan
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I'd roll with #1. Also remember that you must be comfortable with her hooking up with guys too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I would be fine but this could be a potentially volatile situation. Why? Well let's think about who would be going with me to senior week; Eric, Dom, DJ, Nicole, Lexy, Larry, and KEVIN. Kevin is the AFC friend of mine, the one who liked HB Esther and is also close friends with her brother, also my friend, John. So if I take HB Esther to senior week with me, we will likely f***, and when we do that news will spread like wildfire. I don't know if THAT'S a good idea. It may cost me a few friends - yet may alternatively cost me a potential f*** buddy if I don't bring her along.NorwegianDJ said:I'd roll with #1. Also remember that you must be comfortable with her hooking up with guys too.
Yeah, understood.NorwegianDJ said:Have a chat with her about why you're worried about bringing her to senior week. Also decide which friends are worth much to you. Remember that you're gonna lose quite a few of them soon when you leave for university anyway.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Alright.LearningSlowly said:It's overrated.
But also emotional sex is much better, it actually matters.
I never go to school on my birthday. As long as my grades are good I can do whatever I want on my birthday...which in this case involves my family giving me the house to myself to have HB Katelynn over.Mindgamez said:Well done with the sex. Keep being pro!
Reading your stuff motivates me to lose my virginity. I will!
And I don't know why you should skip practice or school. School comes first man, so don't skip it only because it's your birthday.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I know what Kegels are and have tried them before. Not that I don't like them but I don't see them as being too helpful. No science shows that it will improve any sexual functionality, and in some cases I believe it has given men ED.boyfromaus said:Instead of MBing before sex, try these exercises called 'Kegel exercises'. Google it up and give them a try.
Also a question, how do you meet most of the girls that you mention in this journal? Is it through approaching, or from school?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Thanks man, I remember reading your posts in the motivational thread that's stickied here. Good reads, I owe part of my motivation to them.Sammo said:Keep up the good work mate,
Go back to the beginning and look at the progress you've made, i'd imagine it would be a pretty eye opening experience. I love shiit like this. This is why i've always been a fan of such journals.
Trippy especially since ill also be at UNCW this year! All though it will be as an exchange student. Exciting stuff.
No ways. We have to meet up, although I wont be in the states until August next year.Sammo said:Trippy especially since ill also be at UNCW this year! All though it will be as an exchange student. Exciting stuff.
Agreed. Better than my asian.NorwegianDJ said:That asian is CUTE.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.