NorwegianDJ
Master Don Juan
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I'd roll with #1. Also remember that you must be comfortable with her hooking up with guys too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I would be fine but this could be a potentially volatile situation. Why? Well let's think about who would be going with me to senior week; Eric, Dom, DJ, Nicole, Lexy, Larry, and KEVIN. Kevin is the AFC friend of mine, the one who liked HB Esther and is also close friends with her brother, also my friend, John. So if I take HB Esther to senior week with me, we will likely f***, and when we do that news will spread like wildfire. I don't know if THAT'S a good idea. It may cost me a few friends - yet may alternatively cost me a potential f*** buddy if I don't bring her along.NorwegianDJ said:I'd roll with #1. Also remember that you must be comfortable with her hooking up with guys too.
Yeah, understood.NorwegianDJ said:Have a chat with her about why you're worried about bringing her to senior week. Also decide which friends are worth much to you. Remember that you're gonna lose quite a few of them soon when you leave for university anyway.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Alright.LearningSlowly said:It's overrated.
But also emotional sex is much better, it actually matters.
I never go to school on my birthday. As long as my grades are good I can do whatever I want on my birthday...which in this case involves my family giving me the house to myself to have HB Katelynn over.Mindgamez said:Well done with the sex. Keep being pro!
Reading your stuff motivates me to lose my virginity. I will!
And I don't know why you should skip practice or school. School comes first man, so don't skip it only because it's your birthday.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I know what Kegels are and have tried them before. Not that I don't like them but I don't see them as being too helpful. No science shows that it will improve any sexual functionality, and in some cases I believe it has given men ED.boyfromaus said:Instead of MBing before sex, try these exercises called 'Kegel exercises'. Google it up and give them a try.
Also a question, how do you meet most of the girls that you mention in this journal? Is it through approaching, or from school?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Thanks man, I remember reading your posts in the motivational thread that's stickied here. Good reads, I owe part of my motivation to them.Sammo said:Keep up the good work mate,
Go back to the beginning and look at the progress you've made, i'd imagine it would be a pretty eye opening experience. I love shiit like this. This is why i've always been a fan of such journals.
Trippy especially since ill also be at UNCW this year! All though it will be as an exchange student. Exciting stuff.
No ways. We have to meet up, although I wont be in the states until August next year.Sammo said:Trippy especially since ill also be at UNCW this year! All though it will be as an exchange student. Exciting stuff.
Agreed. Better than my asian.NorwegianDJ said:That asian is CUTE.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.