NorwegianDJ
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I'd roll with #1. Also remember that you must be comfortable with her hooking up with guys too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I would be fine but this could be a potentially volatile situation. Why? Well let's think about who would be going with me to senior week; Eric, Dom, DJ, Nicole, Lexy, Larry, and KEVIN. Kevin is the AFC friend of mine, the one who liked HB Esther and is also close friends with her brother, also my friend, John. So if I take HB Esther to senior week with me, we will likely f***, and when we do that news will spread like wildfire. I don't know if THAT'S a good idea. It may cost me a few friends - yet may alternatively cost me a potential f*** buddy if I don't bring her along.NorwegianDJ said:I'd roll with #1. Also remember that you must be comfortable with her hooking up with guys too.
Yeah, understood.NorwegianDJ said:Have a chat with her about why you're worried about bringing her to senior week. Also decide which friends are worth much to you. Remember that you're gonna lose quite a few of them soon when you leave for university anyway.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Alright.LearningSlowly said:It's overrated.
But also emotional sex is much better, it actually matters.
I never go to school on my birthday. As long as my grades are good I can do whatever I want on my birthday...which in this case involves my family giving me the house to myself to have HB Katelynn over.Mindgamez said:Well done with the sex. Keep being pro!
Reading your stuff motivates me to lose my virginity. I will!
And I don't know why you should skip practice or school. School comes first man, so don't skip it only because it's your birthday.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I know what Kegels are and have tried them before. Not that I don't like them but I don't see them as being too helpful. No science shows that it will improve any sexual functionality, and in some cases I believe it has given men ED.boyfromaus said:Instead of MBing before sex, try these exercises called 'Kegel exercises'. Google it up and give them a try.
Also a question, how do you meet most of the girls that you mention in this journal? Is it through approaching, or from school?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Thanks man, I remember reading your posts in the motivational thread that's stickied here. Good reads, I owe part of my motivation to them.Sammo said:Keep up the good work mate,
Go back to the beginning and look at the progress you've made, i'd imagine it would be a pretty eye opening experience. I love shiit like this. This is why i've always been a fan of such journals.
Trippy especially since ill also be at UNCW this year! All though it will be as an exchange student. Exciting stuff.
No ways. We have to meet up, although I wont be in the states until August next year.Sammo said:Trippy especially since ill also be at UNCW this year! All though it will be as an exchange student. Exciting stuff.
Agreed. Better than my asian.NorwegianDJ said:That asian is CUTE.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.