The Sperminator
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The original poster is a genius. How long did it take you to discover this?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
In other words you constructed a strawman. Precisely.Deus ex Pianoforte said:I maintained the original idea while simplifying.
Excatly finally someone else who speaks some sense. To bad half of the idiots are just beating this topic with a dead horse and just talking out of thier ass with no logic or sense.bigjohnson said:More to the point, almost nothing is black-and-white all-or-nothing. For all practical purposes no real guy has zero game, no real person is absolutely hideous, no real person is so handsome chicks swoon (except maybe me, lol) and so forth. Good looks is an edge, more is better. Money is an edge, more is better. Game is an edge, more is better.
Be all you can, improve what you can, deal with the rest.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Deus ex Pianoforte said:Let's say for the sake of argument that looks DO matter, ok? Great.
Scenario 1
So here I am, walking around the bookstore, looking for a target. I see a really good-looking girl...let's say an HB 8.5. Do I approach? Well, looks matter...so am I good-looking enough for her?
**** 10 seconds later ****
Oh, man. She's walking out of the store, now. Oh well, I probably wasn't good-looking enough for her anyway.
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Rico:
Deus are you kidding me???? What the hell do you think a girl in this situation is? A mind reader? Girls rarely approach and if a gu is really good looking think he has lots of girls already.
So why don't you approach the 8.5 babe? Because looks don't matter? Of course they do, but you did the same thing she did.NOTHING!!!! So should she walk away and conclude because you "the guy" did'nt approach her,she is #1. Not pretty enough, or #2. Looks don't matter to you or #3. You are intimidated by her and therefore did not approach #4. You are expecting her to approach because you are such a hunk.
Most likely she will be right in 1 of those 4 choices. But you have made yourself the mind reader for why she didn't approach.
Does a guy with a great resume say education does'nt matter because he never applies for a job, therefore looks at guys who apply with less credentials and succeed as proof of his theory? Or does a guy with a great resume but lousy personality go on to say "personality" is all that matters in getting a job?
Without a great resume it's still possible to get in the door, but you have to try MUCH harder to do it. You also have to try much harder to impress without the great resume. But having great resume gets you in the door a lot easier and a great personality and intelligence keeps you there. The more positives you have in life, the easier it is for you all around.
Even a drop dead gorgeous girl with a lousy personality will have issues as many guys will use her to build up clout and their self esteem. But few will put up with her forever. And guys are much more likely to be looks oriented but most of us aren't that desperate.
No, you can't, and if you do and then write up a summary of your assumption that's the definition of a strawman argument. If you require something more precise you need to ask the opposition to clarify their position, then argue against or agree with their clearly defined position.Deus ex Pianoforte said:Thus, we can safely assume that the poster is equating ....
Well, sometimes it seems worth fighting the good fight, other times I want to let them all just wander off and be miserable. Thanks though.Alphamale1821 said:Excatly finally someone else who speaks some sense. To bad half of the idiots are just beating this topic with a dead horse and just talking out of thier ass with no logic or sense.
As much as it pains me, that's a really good analogy.ricorico said:Does a guy with a great resume say education does'nt matter because he never applies for a job, therefore looks at guys who apply with less credentials and succeed as proof of his theory? Or does a guy with a great resume but lousy personality go on to say "personality" is all that matters in getting a job?
Any way you want to phrase it, what you're doing is taking what they said, changing it from the original and arguing your version. If you don't change the original you can just use a quote. If you can't use a quote, you are not arguing their statement anymore.Deus ex Pianoforte said:No offense to the original poster, but the argument was not written very clearly. I simply restated it to trim the fat.
If it's not a quote then you changed it. Was it or was it not a direct word for word quote?Deus ex Pianoforte said:You are saying that I changed his statement when I did not.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Irony... too much, can't take it...Deus ex Pianoforte said:Why can't you just let it go, bro? So what if somebody makes a "strawman argument" over the Internet? So what if that somebody disagrees with you? Let it go.
That's the point - I read his post as meaning something completely different than you restated. Neither you nor I can say for sure that you did or did not represent his argument fairly, so the ONLY person who can make a certain statement that you are not arguing a strawman is wu himself, but until he confirms that what you argued against was his point you're out in the cold.Deus ex Pianoforte said:I maintained the original idea while restating his post in a concise fashion.
Well that's a little progress.Deus ex Pianoforte said:So what if somebody makes a "strawman argument" over the Internet?
Physician, heal thyself.Deus ex Pianoforte said:So what if that somebody disagrees with you? Let it go.
It looked pretty central to the statement you quoted and then altered. Excluding discussions with you, I've not used the phrase "strawman argument" more than a few times in the last 12 months. Congrats.Deus ex Pianoforte said:Loser is irrelevant to the point he was making.
How can you be so sure? It wasn't YOUR idea that you quoted after all, unless you have 2 accounts and were in fact already arguing with yourself.Deus ex Pianoforte said:.... the main idea lies ....
If you're so sure, why the "?" then? Because you were setting up a strawman.Deus ex Pianoforte said:So you're equating "seduction techniques" with a "pickup line"?
Here is his stance in his own words (what a concept) and I don't see him saying ANYTHING like what your reading comprehension converted his position into.wutangfinancial said:I do agree w/Deus that you shouldn't limit by only going after girls uglier than yourself. Don't reject yourself a head of time .... look your best. It makes everything easier. .... accept what you cannot change and have the courage to change what you can. Don't delude yourself into thinking looks don't matter.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Look! Over there! Shiny!Deus ex Pianoforte said:Do you count straw men jumping over fences when you go to sleep?
Pot. Kettle. Black.Deus ex Pianoforte said:It's too consistent to not nail him .....
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.