"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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NickBe

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I agree with Deus looks matter but you should not walk around thinking that they are the only thing that matters.
 

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Deus, scenario 1 will be a failure if you are too worried about her opinion. Can't you approach knowing there's a chance you might not be her type?

Reverse-engineering the opinion that looks aren't a factor to fit your personal fears and insecurities does not a logical argument make.
 

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bigjohnson said:
More to the point, almost nothing is black-and-white all-or-nothing. For all practical purposes no real guy has zero game, no real person is absolutely hideous, no real person is so handsome chicks swoon (except maybe me, lol) and so forth. Good looks is an edge, more is better. Money is an edge, more is better. Game is an edge, more is better.

Be all you can, improve what you can, deal with the rest.
Excatly finally someone else who speaks some sense. To bad half of the idiots are just beating this topic with a dead horse and just talking out of thier ass with no logic or sense.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Deus ex Pianoforte said:
Let's say for the sake of argument that looks DO matter, ok? Great.

Scenario 1
So here I am, walking around the bookstore, looking for a target. I see a really good-looking girl...let's say an HB 8.5. Do I approach? Well, looks matter...so am I good-looking enough for her?

**** 10 seconds later ****

Oh, man. She's walking out of the store, now. Oh well, I probably wasn't good-looking enough for her anyway.
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Rico:
Deus are you kidding me???? What the hell do you think a girl in this situation is? A mind reader? Girls rarely approach and if a gu is really good looking think he has lots of girls already.

So why don't you approach the 8.5 babe? Because looks don't matter? Of course they do, but you did the same thing she did.NOTHING!!!! So should she walk away and conclude because you "the guy" did'nt approach her,she is #1. Not pretty enough, or #2. Looks don't matter to you or #3. You are intimidated by her and therefore did not approach #4. You are expecting her to approach because you are such a hunk.
Most likely she will be right in 1 of those 4 choices. But you have made yourself the mind reader for why she didn't approach.


Does a guy with a great resume say education does'nt matter because he never applies for a job, therefore looks at guys who apply with less credentials and succeed as proof of his theory? Or does a guy with a great resume but lousy personality go on to say "personality" is all that matters in getting a job?

Without a great resume it's still possible to get in the door, but you have to try MUCH harder to do it. You also have to try much harder to impress without the great resume. But having great resume gets you in the door a lot easier and a great personality and intelligence keeps you there. The more positives you have in life, the easier it is for you all around.

Even a drop dead gorgeous girl with a lousy personality will have issues as many guys will use her to build up clout and their self esteem. But few will put up with her forever. And guys are much more likely to be looks oriented but most of us aren't that desperate.
 

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Deus ex Pianoforte said:
Thus, we can safely assume that the poster is equating ....
No, you can't, and if you do and then write up a summary of your assumption that's the definition of a strawman argument. If you require something more precise you need to ask the opposition to clarify their position, then argue against or agree with their clearly defined position.




Alphamale1821 said:
Excatly finally someone else who speaks some sense. To bad half of the idiots are just beating this topic with a dead horse and just talking out of thier ass with no logic or sense.
Well, sometimes it seems worth fighting the good fight, other times I want to let them all just wander off and be miserable. Thanks though.




ricorico said:
Does a guy with a great resume say education does'nt matter because he never applies for a job, therefore looks at guys who apply with less credentials and succeed as proof of his theory? Or does a guy with a great resume but lousy personality go on to say "personality" is all that matters in getting a job?
As much as it pains me, that's a really good analogy.
 

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Deus ex Pianoforte said:
No offense to the original poster, but the argument was not written very clearly. I simply restated it to trim the fat.
Any way you want to phrase it, what you're doing is taking what they said, changing it from the original and arguing your version. If you don't change the original you can just use a quote. If you can't use a quote, you are not arguing their statement anymore.

It's dead easy to understand.
 

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Deus ex Pianoforte said:
You are saying that I changed his statement when I did not.
If it's not a quote then you changed it. Was it or was it not a direct word for word quote?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Deus ex Pianoforte said:
Why can't you just let it go, bro? So what if somebody makes a "strawman argument" over the Internet? So what if that somebody disagrees with you? Let it go.
Irony... too much, can't take it...
 

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Deus ex Pianoforte said:
I maintained the original idea while restating his post in a concise fashion.
That's the point - I read his post as meaning something completely different than you restated. Neither you nor I can say for sure that you did or did not represent his argument fairly, so the ONLY person who can make a certain statement that you are not arguing a strawman is wu himself, but until he confirms that what you argued against was his point you're out in the cold.

I'm pretty sure "loser" doesn't mean "unattractive guy whom we know nothing else about" in the context he used it. Rather I read it as being some poor bastard who has little to nothing going for him including but not limited to looks. That is pretty much the typical definition for "loser", isn't it?

But then that doesn't fit with what you like to argue about, nor is it an easy position to refute. Is it? :woo:

The only case I'm aware of where this sort of tactic is part of a logical argument is where you are systematically tearing down the other side and this is part of the deconstruction, but you didn't go anywhere near doing the rest of the work for that sort of proof.



Deus ex Pianoforte said:
So what if somebody makes a "strawman argument" over the Internet?
Well that's a little progress.



Deus ex Pianoforte said:
So what if that somebody disagrees with you? Let it go.
Physician, heal thyself.
 

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Deus ex Pianoforte said:
Loser is irrelevant to the point he was making.
It looked pretty central to the statement you quoted and then altered. Excluding discussions with you, I've not used the phrase "strawman argument" more than a few times in the last 12 months. Congrats.
 

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Deus ex Pianoforte said:
.... the main idea lies ....
How can you be so sure? It wasn't YOUR idea that you quoted after all, unless you have 2 accounts and were in fact already arguing with yourself.
 

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Deus ex Pianoforte said:
So you're equating "seduction techniques" with a "pickup line"?
If you're so sure, why the "?" then? Because you were setting up a strawman.

wutangfinancial said:
I do agree w/Deus that you shouldn't limit by only going after girls uglier than yourself. Don't reject yourself a head of time .... look your best. It makes everything easier. .... accept what you cannot change and have the courage to change what you can. Don't delude yourself into thinking looks don't matter.
Here is his stance in his own words (what a concept) and I don't see him saying ANYTHING like what your reading comprehension converted his position into.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Deus, you can't get him for over-use of the phrase 'straw man' because you caused him to reiterate the phrase to prove your argument skills were misleading. So suck it up.
 

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Deus, do you use your tenacious argumentative skills on women, or just us e-folk? Because they would dig it, I promise. It really doesn't matter whether you're right or wrong.
 

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WTF is wrong with this damn "call" button? I keep pressing it and not one MOD shows up!!! :cuss:
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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