The Sperminator
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The original poster is a genius. How long did it take you to discover this?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
In other words you constructed a strawman. Precisely.Deus ex Pianoforte said:I maintained the original idea while simplifying.
Excatly finally someone else who speaks some sense. To bad half of the idiots are just beating this topic with a dead horse and just talking out of thier ass with no logic or sense.bigjohnson said:More to the point, almost nothing is black-and-white all-or-nothing. For all practical purposes no real guy has zero game, no real person is absolutely hideous, no real person is so handsome chicks swoon (except maybe me, lol) and so forth. Good looks is an edge, more is better. Money is an edge, more is better. Game is an edge, more is better.
Be all you can, improve what you can, deal with the rest.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Deus ex Pianoforte said:Let's say for the sake of argument that looks DO matter, ok? Great.
Scenario 1
So here I am, walking around the bookstore, looking for a target. I see a really good-looking girl...let's say an HB 8.5. Do I approach? Well, looks matter...so am I good-looking enough for her?
**** 10 seconds later ****
Oh, man. She's walking out of the store, now. Oh well, I probably wasn't good-looking enough for her anyway.
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Rico:
Deus are you kidding me???? What the hell do you think a girl in this situation is? A mind reader? Girls rarely approach and if a gu is really good looking think he has lots of girls already.
So why don't you approach the 8.5 babe? Because looks don't matter? Of course they do, but you did the same thing she did.NOTHING!!!! So should she walk away and conclude because you "the guy" did'nt approach her,she is #1. Not pretty enough, or #2. Looks don't matter to you or #3. You are intimidated by her and therefore did not approach #4. You are expecting her to approach because you are such a hunk.
Most likely she will be right in 1 of those 4 choices. But you have made yourself the mind reader for why she didn't approach.
Does a guy with a great resume say education does'nt matter because he never applies for a job, therefore looks at guys who apply with less credentials and succeed as proof of his theory? Or does a guy with a great resume but lousy personality go on to say "personality" is all that matters in getting a job?
Without a great resume it's still possible to get in the door, but you have to try MUCH harder to do it. You also have to try much harder to impress without the great resume. But having great resume gets you in the door a lot easier and a great personality and intelligence keeps you there. The more positives you have in life, the easier it is for you all around.
Even a drop dead gorgeous girl with a lousy personality will have issues as many guys will use her to build up clout and their self esteem. But few will put up with her forever. And guys are much more likely to be looks oriented but most of us aren't that desperate.
No, you can't, and if you do and then write up a summary of your assumption that's the definition of a strawman argument. If you require something more precise you need to ask the opposition to clarify their position, then argue against or agree with their clearly defined position.Deus ex Pianoforte said:Thus, we can safely assume that the poster is equating ....
Well, sometimes it seems worth fighting the good fight, other times I want to let them all just wander off and be miserable. Thanks though.Alphamale1821 said:Excatly finally someone else who speaks some sense. To bad half of the idiots are just beating this topic with a dead horse and just talking out of thier ass with no logic or sense.
As much as it pains me, that's a really good analogy.ricorico said:Does a guy with a great resume say education does'nt matter because he never applies for a job, therefore looks at guys who apply with less credentials and succeed as proof of his theory? Or does a guy with a great resume but lousy personality go on to say "personality" is all that matters in getting a job?
Any way you want to phrase it, what you're doing is taking what they said, changing it from the original and arguing your version. If you don't change the original you can just use a quote. If you can't use a quote, you are not arguing their statement anymore.Deus ex Pianoforte said:No offense to the original poster, but the argument was not written very clearly. I simply restated it to trim the fat.
If it's not a quote then you changed it. Was it or was it not a direct word for word quote?Deus ex Pianoforte said:You are saying that I changed his statement when I did not.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Irony... too much, can't take it...Deus ex Pianoforte said:Why can't you just let it go, bro? So what if somebody makes a "strawman argument" over the Internet? So what if that somebody disagrees with you? Let it go.
That's the point - I read his post as meaning something completely different than you restated. Neither you nor I can say for sure that you did or did not represent his argument fairly, so the ONLY person who can make a certain statement that you are not arguing a strawman is wu himself, but until he confirms that what you argued against was his point you're out in the cold.Deus ex Pianoforte said:I maintained the original idea while restating his post in a concise fashion.
Well that's a little progress.Deus ex Pianoforte said:So what if somebody makes a "strawman argument" over the Internet?
Physician, heal thyself.Deus ex Pianoforte said:So what if that somebody disagrees with you? Let it go.
It looked pretty central to the statement you quoted and then altered. Excluding discussions with you, I've not used the phrase "strawman argument" more than a few times in the last 12 months. Congrats.Deus ex Pianoforte said:Loser is irrelevant to the point he was making.
How can you be so sure? It wasn't YOUR idea that you quoted after all, unless you have 2 accounts and were in fact already arguing with yourself.Deus ex Pianoforte said:.... the main idea lies ....
If you're so sure, why the "?" then? Because you were setting up a strawman.Deus ex Pianoforte said:So you're equating "seduction techniques" with a "pickup line"?
Here is his stance in his own words (what a concept) and I don't see him saying ANYTHING like what your reading comprehension converted his position into.wutangfinancial said:I do agree w/Deus that you shouldn't limit by only going after girls uglier than yourself. Don't reject yourself a head of time .... look your best. It makes everything easier. .... accept what you cannot change and have the courage to change what you can. Don't delude yourself into thinking looks don't matter.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Look! Over there! Shiny!Deus ex Pianoforte said:Do you count straw men jumping over fences when you go to sleep?
Pot. Kettle. Black.Deus ex Pianoforte said:It's too consistent to not nail him .....
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.