ladiesman217
Don Juan
I met this girl, she likes me, I like her. I told her I liked her and I know she likes me. Then I brought up relationships and she made up some bs about not wanting one. Why did this kill so much attraction?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The biggest mistake about being honest
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
ameya905
Don Juan
Oh come on!
Tell me, if the chick REALLY liked you, why would she not want a relationship?
And man, you jumped in too soon. A relationship without casual dating? Well, chances are she was spooked.
How? Were there any legit IOI's? Anyway she failed the ultimate interest test i.e. Wanting a relationship.ladiesman217 said:I know she likes me.
Tell me, if the chick REALLY liked you, why would she not want a relationship?
And man, you jumped in too soon. A relationship without casual dating? Well, chances are she was spooked.
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This is why. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8pIKj5427Q
ladiesman217
Don Juan
ameya905 said:How? Were there any legit IOI's? Anyway she failed the ultimate interest test i.e. Wanting a relationship.
Tell me, if the chick REALLY liked you, why would she not want a relationship?
And man, you jumped in too soon. A relationship without casual dating? Well, chances are she was spooked.
There were tons of iois, she started texting conversations almost everyday, she always was touching me, she always wanted to see me and hang out even after seeing me earlier that night, she was always laughing at my jokes even when they got messed up, I brought up sex and she confltinued the topic. The list goes on, I KNOW she was attracted to me. I'm in high school, there isn't a difference between a causal relationship and a relationship... Or is there? You said she was spooked, tell me more about what you mean there.
You showed that you're more invested in her than she is in you.ladiesman217 said:I met this girl, she likes me, I like her. I told her I liked her and I know she likes me. Then I brought up relationships and she made up some bs about not wanting one. Why did this kill so much attraction?
Plain and simple, always be LESS invested than the polar to stay attractive.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
ladiesman217
Don Juan
How do I do that?
Uh that's a big 5 word question.ladiesman217 said:How do I do that?
The core of it is: stop caring. Or, not even that, just care less than she does.