ladiesman217
Don Juan
I met this girl, she likes me, I like her. I told her I liked her and I know she likes me. Then I brought up relationships and she made up some bs about not wanting one. Why did this kill so much attraction?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
The biggest mistake about being honest
- Thread starter ladiesman217
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ameya905
Don Juan
Oh come on!
Tell me, if the chick REALLY liked you, why would she not want a relationship?
And man, you jumped in too soon. A relationship without casual dating? Well, chances are she was spooked.
How? Were there any legit IOI's? Anyway she failed the ultimate interest test i.e. Wanting a relationship.ladiesman217 said:I know she likes me.
Tell me, if the chick REALLY liked you, why would she not want a relationship?
And man, you jumped in too soon. A relationship without casual dating? Well, chances are she was spooked.
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This is why. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8pIKj5427Q
ladiesman217
Don Juan
ameya905 said:How? Were there any legit IOI's? Anyway she failed the ultimate interest test i.e. Wanting a relationship.
Tell me, if the chick REALLY liked you, why would she not want a relationship?
And man, you jumped in too soon. A relationship without casual dating? Well, chances are she was spooked.
There were tons of iois, she started texting conversations almost everyday, she always was touching me, she always wanted to see me and hang out even after seeing me earlier that night, she was always laughing at my jokes even when they got messed up, I brought up sex and she confltinued the topic. The list goes on, I KNOW she was attracted to me. I'm in high school, there isn't a difference between a causal relationship and a relationship... Or is there? You said she was spooked, tell me more about what you mean there.
You showed that you're more invested in her than she is in you.ladiesman217 said:I met this girl, she likes me, I like her. I told her I liked her and I know she likes me. Then I brought up relationships and she made up some bs about not wanting one. Why did this kill so much attraction?
Plain and simple, always be LESS invested than the polar to stay attractive.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
ladiesman217
Don Juan
How do I do that?
Uh that's a big 5 word question.ladiesman217 said:How do I do that?
The core of it is: stop caring. Or, not even that, just care less than she does.