ladiesman217
Don Juan
I met this girl, she likes me, I like her. I told her I liked her and I know she likes me. Then I brought up relationships and she made up some bs about not wanting one. Why did this kill so much attraction?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The biggest mistake about being honest
- Thread starter ladiesman217
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ameya905
Don Juan
Oh come on!
Tell me, if the chick REALLY liked you, why would she not want a relationship?
And man, you jumped in too soon. A relationship without casual dating? Well, chances are she was spooked.
How? Were there any legit IOI's? Anyway she failed the ultimate interest test i.e. Wanting a relationship.ladiesman217 said:I know she likes me.
Tell me, if the chick REALLY liked you, why would she not want a relationship?
And man, you jumped in too soon. A relationship without casual dating? Well, chances are she was spooked.
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This is why. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8pIKj5427Q
ladiesman217
Don Juan
ameya905 said:How? Were there any legit IOI's? Anyway she failed the ultimate interest test i.e. Wanting a relationship.
Tell me, if the chick REALLY liked you, why would she not want a relationship?
And man, you jumped in too soon. A relationship without casual dating? Well, chances are she was spooked.
There were tons of iois, she started texting conversations almost everyday, she always was touching me, she always wanted to see me and hang out even after seeing me earlier that night, she was always laughing at my jokes even when they got messed up, I brought up sex and she confltinued the topic. The list goes on, I KNOW she was attracted to me. I'm in high school, there isn't a difference between a causal relationship and a relationship... Or is there? You said she was spooked, tell me more about what you mean there.
You showed that you're more invested in her than she is in you.ladiesman217 said:I met this girl, she likes me, I like her. I told her I liked her and I know she likes me. Then I brought up relationships and she made up some bs about not wanting one. Why did this kill so much attraction?
Plain and simple, always be LESS invested than the polar to stay attractive.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
ladiesman217
Don Juan
How do I do that?
Uh that's a big 5 word question.ladiesman217 said:How do I do that?
The core of it is: stop caring. Or, not even that, just care less than she does.