ladiesman217
Don Juan
I met this girl, she likes me, I like her. I told her I liked her and I know she likes me. Then I brought up relationships and she made up some bs about not wanting one. Why did this kill so much attraction?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The biggest mistake about being honest
- Thread starter ladiesman217
- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
ameya905
Don Juan
Oh come on!
Tell me, if the chick REALLY liked you, why would she not want a relationship?
And man, you jumped in too soon. A relationship without casual dating? Well, chances are she was spooked.
How? Were there any legit IOI's? Anyway she failed the ultimate interest test i.e. Wanting a relationship.ladiesman217 said:I know she likes me.
Tell me, if the chick REALLY liked you, why would she not want a relationship?
And man, you jumped in too soon. A relationship without casual dating? Well, chances are she was spooked.
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This is why. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8pIKj5427Q
ladiesman217
Don Juan
ameya905 said:How? Were there any legit IOI's? Anyway she failed the ultimate interest test i.e. Wanting a relationship.
Tell me, if the chick REALLY liked you, why would she not want a relationship?
And man, you jumped in too soon. A relationship without casual dating? Well, chances are she was spooked.
There were tons of iois, she started texting conversations almost everyday, she always was touching me, she always wanted to see me and hang out even after seeing me earlier that night, she was always laughing at my jokes even when they got messed up, I brought up sex and she confltinued the topic. The list goes on, I KNOW she was attracted to me. I'm in high school, there isn't a difference between a causal relationship and a relationship... Or is there? You said she was spooked, tell me more about what you mean there.
You showed that you're more invested in her than she is in you.ladiesman217 said:I met this girl, she likes me, I like her. I told her I liked her and I know she likes me. Then I brought up relationships and she made up some bs about not wanting one. Why did this kill so much attraction?
Plain and simple, always be LESS invested than the polar to stay attractive.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
ladiesman217
Don Juan
How do I do that?
Uh that's a big 5 word question.ladiesman217 said:How do I do that?
The core of it is: stop caring. Or, not even that, just care less than she does.