The_Reaper
Senior Don Juan
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Please discuss, good sirs.
Please discuss, good sirs.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Epic Fail at math as well as logic.The_Reaper said:"The average number of sexual partners for men in a lifetime is 7. For women, it is 4
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Please discuss, good sirs.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
lol very true.Frank_Tartaglia said:It's because they don't survey hookers.
I hate that bullsh1t.RMM said:I'm pretty sure the women answering the survey were being sincere (or rather, thought they were).
See, that's because the fling they had that Summer in Mexico? That doesn't really count. And the time they went out with their girlfriends and went home with the guys who danced salsa so well? Nope, not relevant. That day they got drunk and had sex with some guy they don't remember the name of? Well, if they don't remember the name, it obviously didn't count. The rebound guy they ****ed when they broke up with some boyfriend or other? Really, that's not even worth mentioning.
And so on and so forth.
Because you managed to have sex on a regular basis five years before these college guys only means who understand how to attract women and some people don't. Generalizing a segment of the population because you can do something and they can't is very short sighted and conceited. Because you are good at getting sex doesn't mean the next guy should or will be. Some people have girl issues, confidence issues, look issues, family issues, its a whole range of things that you don't know or are unaware about. Be a little open minded and understand everyone is not as skilled as you in getting sex.Leporello said:Personally I think that's about right, though if anything the men probably raise their numbers while the women lower them.
The A in AFC doesn't stand for 'average' for nothing. Most guys have alot of trouble getting laid, so they tend to have a few long-term relationships before getting married once or twice.
my previous thread for the strange persistence of male virginity:
Over the past couple of months three guys I went to college with have all announced with great fanfare that they lost their V. Now, these aren't exactly movie stars we're talking about but they're not ugly or particularly awkward so far as I could tell. For god 's sake I'm thin, pale, nerdy and about as awkward as you can get without actually having Asperger's and I still managed to get laid on a regular basis FIVE YEARS before these guys.
Is this normal? Is there a sizable part of the straight non-religious-fanatic population which doesn't feel the inside of a vagina until 22 or 23? I'm finding that hard to wrap my head around...
You are finding that hard to wrap your head around? If that is the case, you are either
1) Ignorant
2) Conceited
3) Oblivious
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.