Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Goes along with a video I was watching earlier today, about the lack of masculinity in today's men. This is what happens when you do your best to eliminate the nuclear family. Too many males being raised by single mothers, no real role models for men growing up, masculinity being discouraged in our culture. But they'll encourage boys to put on a dress.
The average American male isn't unemployed, but underemployed might be somewhat accurate. There's a lot of porn addiction and alcohol/drug abuse. Ignored by women or divorce court raped. Beta male.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I quit masterbating over a month ago. Now I feel energized,motivated and confident.
Come on bro, you needed Rollo to tell you that? I knew that in 1994.
That makes sense in the short term. Those effects will level off over time, but keep going with no porn and no masturbation. You'll be in a better place if you keep it up.
If Options A-C are the only options in life, Option A is the best one. In option A, you must avoid porn and masturbation. As a male, once you hit your 30s, you will be a social outcast if you are unattached or marginally attached (shorter term relationships typically lasting 12 months or less). Most people you know will be married and in multi-year LTRs. You'll barely see your married male friends and the guys in 3-5+ year long LTRs won't be much better than your married male friends. On the infrequent occasions that you do see them, you'll have less and less in common with them. Your siblings and cousins will likely have pursued the marriage and family path, so you'll even be a bit of an outcast within your family and have some less than ideal family gatherings.
They are not the only options in life, but it’s funny that, like you said, if a man isn’t attached, he’s an outcast, something is wrong with him. He is not invited anywhere and has a problem, Society doesn’t care about the man’s mental health, all that matters is that man follow customs.
Not a bad idea.
I am above average, and I aint surprised weve got a mass epidemic of depressed men.
That's a petty way to look at it. It's happened to me a few times, you embrace them, they are good people that's why they were friends initially. My best friend's little brother (I'm Godfather to his kids) recently got dupmped by his fianceé of 7 years, kicked him out of "her house" that he's been contributing to for 7 years (they only just moved from her apartment to her new house) and he sees the kids on Friday to Saturday.
Mostly every never married/no children man who is 35+ has seen this situation at least once. A lot of couples start divorcing around 35-40.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
The Millennials (1981/82 - 1996) have been a lost generation since the stock market crashed in 2007-09. The Millennials bore the brunt of the late 2000s/early 2010s and were disproportionately affected in 2020. No generation in American history has been crapped on as much economically as Millennials, especially the 1981/82-1988 ones.
A good portion of men below the 80th percentile are essentially invisible. At best, they are bait for 30 something provider hunter females if they happen to have decent jobs.
I have seen those pics before. Always wondered if they are real but I wouldnt be surprised if they are.
Agreed. I've discussed this here a few times. The biggest issue is a culture of comfort and lack of genuinely challenging circumstances (not your video controller running out of battery).
It use to bother me when it happened to me being in my late 30s 80% of my friends are married and I hardly talk them
@Fruitbat didn't feel them. I finished my MBA in the 2007-2008 school year. Interviewing for jobs in Fall 2007 and 2008 was a horrendous, traumatic experience that set me back years in career development and progression. I also felt the 2020 downturn too.
The overeducated, Starbucks barista stereotype started with the Millennials in the late 2000s/early 2010s downturn.
