rhsarrow17
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It's ballsy and flirtatious.
On the other hand, disrespectful.
What is your take?
On the other hand, disrespectful.
What is your take?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The Art of the Hallway Ass-Slap
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Sterling the Runner
Don Juan
I start off by poking their butt with my foot. Then as they get used to that I start slaping the pinching.
Patrick124
Master Don Juan
Its disrespectful. I mena I sued to do it..bu I see no need for it. Maybe if I'm macking the chick and i do it as a joke, but I mean..
If I see sara walking int he hall, I'm not gonan turn aroudn mid sentence, slap her ass,a nd then pretend I didn't do it.
its not a form of "kino" unless shes already deeply attracted to you. otherwise it mgiht eb considered disrespectful, and lose you points.
If I see sara walking int he hall, I'm not gonan turn aroudn mid sentence, slap her ass,a nd then pretend I didn't do it.
its not a form of "kino" unless shes already deeply attracted to you. otherwise it mgiht eb considered disrespectful, and lose you points.
Sterling the Runner
Don Juan
I have had girls slap my ass before and i didnt find it disrespectful at all, just as long as i knew them or were friends with them.
idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
Of course you didn't find it disrespectful....you're a guy.
I wouldn't though. I do think it's disrespectful.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
WELL... like many things, it depends.
In public, for most girls, it's pretty damned disrespectful. Just as initiating a makeout session on a public street in front of an elementary school is pretty tasteless and shows you have no concern for the future youth. Slapping their ass in a crowded high school hallway is pretty much a no-no.
Girls don't like to be considered slutty, it's in their nature. Even if they like being treated like it, social programming has sent it against them. So when you display something like that in a public place, where others can see, it can just be downright mean and offensive.
Now, if it's kinda in the back of the class and no one sees and you and the girl are pretty well off, I don't think a good job pat is that bad at all. When I'm with my girlfriend, I'll even grab it as a "hurry up," "good luck," "good job," "quit teasing me or I'll strip you down right here," kind of gesture.
But still, as with all things of this nature, it depends on who it's to, what your relationship is with that person, how deep in that relationship you are in with that person, where it is, and how you think they'll react. But if you do start though, don't back away if she just gets playfully offended. Make sure you play it off like it's a normal thing to do, otherwise it'll seem like you were just testing the waters or wanting a little grabby grabby.
Maybe I'm just talking too much from personal experience.
Last note. I wouldn't grab her in the workplace, I wouldn't grab her if I were still going to school, I wouldn't grab her in a place where people who she knows can easily see. How do you know her mom isn't just 15 yards away talking to a teacher?
You don't.
In public, for most girls, it's pretty damned disrespectful. Just as initiating a makeout session on a public street in front of an elementary school is pretty tasteless and shows you have no concern for the future youth. Slapping their ass in a crowded high school hallway is pretty much a no-no.
Girls don't like to be considered slutty, it's in their nature. Even if they like being treated like it, social programming has sent it against them. So when you display something like that in a public place, where others can see, it can just be downright mean and offensive.
Now, if it's kinda in the back of the class and no one sees and you and the girl are pretty well off, I don't think a good job pat is that bad at all. When I'm with my girlfriend, I'll even grab it as a "hurry up," "good luck," "good job," "quit teasing me or I'll strip you down right here," kind of gesture.
But still, as with all things of this nature, it depends on who it's to, what your relationship is with that person, how deep in that relationship you are in with that person, where it is, and how you think they'll react. But if you do start though, don't back away if she just gets playfully offended. Make sure you play it off like it's a normal thing to do, otherwise it'll seem like you were just testing the waters or wanting a little grabby grabby.
Maybe I'm just talking too much from personal experience.
Last note. I wouldn't grab her in the workplace, I wouldn't grab her if I were still going to school, I wouldn't grab her in a place where people who she knows can easily see. How do you know her mom isn't just 15 yards away talking to a teacher?
You don't.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Nex
Senior Don Juan
girls slap my ass all the time. I always slap them back and they get all ****ing *****y. but I'm still not gonna stop doing it.
crimsonclockwork
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I have done a test on 5 girls. 2 of which I did it on in the first two weeks, and three I didn't. The first one had extreme interest in me, and the second one I did it to I am now dating. The other three I didn't do it on. Well. I didn't work out.
rhsarrow17
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thought so. ive done it a bunch recently with friends, and everything went fine. very flirtatious, getting nothing but good responses.
but once i tried it on a pretty popular girl who i'm not great friends with. mistake. nothing happened really, but I came home to a rather nasty IM.
but once i tried it on a pretty popular girl who i'm not great friends with. mistake. nothing happened really, but I came home to a rather nasty IM.
AFK Protector
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I wouldn't do it. Only you can prevent forest fires.
Osiris7250
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^^^^^^ LMAO
nah if you know her well enough that she wont ***** you out go ahead, otherwise..... play it off as if its normal
nah if you know her well enough that she wont ***** you out go ahead, otherwise..... play it off as if its normal
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.