rhsarrow17
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It's ballsy and flirtatious.
On the other hand, disrespectful.
What is your take?
On the other hand, disrespectful.
What is your take?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The Art of the Hallway Ass-Slap
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Sterling the Runner
Don Juan
I start off by poking their butt with my foot. Then as they get used to that I start slaping the pinching.
Patrick124
Master Don Juan
Its disrespectful. I mena I sued to do it..bu I see no need for it. Maybe if I'm macking the chick and i do it as a joke, but I mean..
If I see sara walking int he hall, I'm not gonan turn aroudn mid sentence, slap her ass,a nd then pretend I didn't do it.
its not a form of "kino" unless shes already deeply attracted to you. otherwise it mgiht eb considered disrespectful, and lose you points.
If I see sara walking int he hall, I'm not gonan turn aroudn mid sentence, slap her ass,a nd then pretend I didn't do it.
its not a form of "kino" unless shes already deeply attracted to you. otherwise it mgiht eb considered disrespectful, and lose you points.
Sterling the Runner
Don Juan
I have had girls slap my ass before and i didnt find it disrespectful at all, just as long as i knew them or were friends with them.
idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
Of course you didn't find it disrespectful....you're a guy.
I wouldn't though. I do think it's disrespectful.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
WELL... like many things, it depends.
In public, for most girls, it's pretty damned disrespectful. Just as initiating a makeout session on a public street in front of an elementary school is pretty tasteless and shows you have no concern for the future youth. Slapping their ass in a crowded high school hallway is pretty much a no-no.
Girls don't like to be considered slutty, it's in their nature. Even if they like being treated like it, social programming has sent it against them. So when you display something like that in a public place, where others can see, it can just be downright mean and offensive.
Now, if it's kinda in the back of the class and no one sees and you and the girl are pretty well off, I don't think a good job pat is that bad at all. When I'm with my girlfriend, I'll even grab it as a "hurry up," "good luck," "good job," "quit teasing me or I'll strip you down right here," kind of gesture.
But still, as with all things of this nature, it depends on who it's to, what your relationship is with that person, how deep in that relationship you are in with that person, where it is, and how you think they'll react. But if you do start though, don't back away if she just gets playfully offended. Make sure you play it off like it's a normal thing to do, otherwise it'll seem like you were just testing the waters or wanting a little grabby grabby.
Maybe I'm just talking too much from personal experience.
Last note. I wouldn't grab her in the workplace, I wouldn't grab her if I were still going to school, I wouldn't grab her in a place where people who she knows can easily see. How do you know her mom isn't just 15 yards away talking to a teacher?
You don't.
In public, for most girls, it's pretty damned disrespectful. Just as initiating a makeout session on a public street in front of an elementary school is pretty tasteless and shows you have no concern for the future youth. Slapping their ass in a crowded high school hallway is pretty much a no-no.
Girls don't like to be considered slutty, it's in their nature. Even if they like being treated like it, social programming has sent it against them. So when you display something like that in a public place, where others can see, it can just be downright mean and offensive.
Now, if it's kinda in the back of the class and no one sees and you and the girl are pretty well off, I don't think a good job pat is that bad at all. When I'm with my girlfriend, I'll even grab it as a "hurry up," "good luck," "good job," "quit teasing me or I'll strip you down right here," kind of gesture.
But still, as with all things of this nature, it depends on who it's to, what your relationship is with that person, how deep in that relationship you are in with that person, where it is, and how you think they'll react. But if you do start though, don't back away if she just gets playfully offended. Make sure you play it off like it's a normal thing to do, otherwise it'll seem like you were just testing the waters or wanting a little grabby grabby.
Maybe I'm just talking too much from personal experience.
Last note. I wouldn't grab her in the workplace, I wouldn't grab her if I were still going to school, I wouldn't grab her in a place where people who she knows can easily see. How do you know her mom isn't just 15 yards away talking to a teacher?
You don't.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Nex
Senior Don Juan
girls slap my ass all the time. I always slap them back and they get all ****ing *****y. but I'm still not gonna stop doing it.
crimsonclockwork
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I have done a test on 5 girls. 2 of which I did it on in the first two weeks, and three I didn't. The first one had extreme interest in me, and the second one I did it to I am now dating. The other three I didn't do it on. Well. I didn't work out.
rhsarrow17
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thought so. ive done it a bunch recently with friends, and everything went fine. very flirtatious, getting nothing but good responses.
but once i tried it on a pretty popular girl who i'm not great friends with. mistake. nothing happened really, but I came home to a rather nasty IM.
but once i tried it on a pretty popular girl who i'm not great friends with. mistake. nothing happened really, but I came home to a rather nasty IM.
AFK Protector
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I wouldn't do it. Only you can prevent forest fires.
Osiris7250
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^^^^^^ LMAO
nah if you know her well enough that she wont ***** you out go ahead, otherwise..... play it off as if its normal
nah if you know her well enough that she wont ***** you out go ahead, otherwise..... play it off as if its normal
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.