"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The art of being 'Confident and funny'.

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Often, I find myself sprinkling just a tiny dab of confident humor and teasing from the start, then building plenty of connections and social panache to get the date or approach moving in the right direction. How much confident humor/teasing do you use throughout the date or approach?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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None if I'm trying to get laid. C0cky/funny, yes. You need to be willing to be provocative and roguish, overtly willing to push up against (but not cross) boundaries. Merely being confident won't accomplish this.

The difference between c0cky/funny and confident/funny is the difference between Richard Pryor and Bob Saget.

Nobody liked Bob Saget until he started telling dirty jokes.
 

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None if I'm trying to get laid. C0cky/funny, yes. You need to be willing to be provocative and roguish, overtly willing to push up against (but not cross) boundaries. Merely being confident won't accomplish this.

The difference between c0cky/funny and confident/funny is the difference between Richard Pryor and Bob Saget.

Nobody liked Bob Saget until he started telling dirty jokes.
Im considering that a red flag.
If a man has that attitude, its a red flag
(****y funny)

Also, do examples of a dialogue if you need to explain what do you think being ****y funny vs confident funny is, so we better enter your pov
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yet, he made his millions on Full House and HIMYM
And he was mainly known for that warm hearted wholesome stuff. Which made it all the more surprising when you saw his act.
 

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Start off being a bit grey...then slowly reveal a bit more of the humour as time goes on and she reveals her personality too.

Chatted to a gym girl today and the least-grey thing I said after was she asked me name. (Not posting my name on here, I said something like "my name's Simon, but you can call me Si"
 
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