"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The Art of Appologizing...What Do I Do?

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Ian19

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I f-ed up and said some things to this girl I'm seeing thinking that I was 100% right only to find out I was 100% wrong. I really need to appologize and try to salvage things. What should I do? I've never had to appologize like this before.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Telling us what happened exactly will get you a better answer.
 
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If you must apologize (it was something really! bad)
Then just remember not to over do it otherwise you give her too much control and come off looking weak (in a way).

A tip if you're apologizing use the word I more than you
Long explanation, but it does help usually help get the point across better.

Also remember if she won't accept you're apology do not linger and move on.
The last thing you prob need is drama and going back to AFC ways of getting or keeping a girl.
Remember if after you gave her a sincere apology, if she can't accept it that's her problem and move on.

Good Luck to you bro
 
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dude your the one with the indian chick if i m not mistaken ..be cool and just say it
 
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The "trick" here is to know the right way to apologize. So the thing to recognize is this,

YOU made the mistake in confiding in a false truth. You felt that what you were saying was true and that YOU were right about it. That's part one of the apology, so you need to say you were wrong about that (cuz you were, right? or else why apologize.)

next is to say you're sorry for not knowing better OR for doubting her (whichever it was) OR for whatever it is you did to apologize for.

At the point where you're done saying everything you had to, be sure to LISTEN to what she has to say. Accept it and move on.

Bad thing is that you can't cover up anything by making it sound like you are excused as that doesn't work. At least for me it don't.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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