"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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That Joy when You see her again

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Hello. I have been with several women in my life. (not as many as you)

With some of them, this thing happened to me: as soon as I wasn't in her presence, it was as if I missed her a lot.

I really missed the person.
And as soon as we saw each other again, I felt immense joy for this person.
A bit like your dog seeing you come home.
I instinctively smiled when I looked at her face.
And this thing never went away.


It has only happened to me with 2 women out of the 12 I have met and been with, both short and long relationships.

What does this mean, since it didn't happen with the other 10?
Has this ever happened to you?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It means to a large degree she was an external source of validation to you.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Fvck is wrong with you people.

People meet each other and they like each other.

They think about each other when they are apart and then get happy when they see each other again.

Did you just arrive on planet Earth recently and not know how normal humans operate?

wtf
 
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tesla8520 said:
What does this mean, since it didn't happen with the other 10?
Has this ever happened to you?
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Yeah, then I realized: "You believe you MUST have her, the way a dope fiend believes he can't survive day to day life without a suitcase filled with syringes and black tar smack underneath the bed"

Subsequently, I began remedying this particular flaw in my psyche, with varying degrees of success
 
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Sounds like Tesla found some good poon

but You also mentioned that you've only had a few. Tis probably not the case for the gal you’ve mentioned because chances are sky high she has the same effect on other dudes

and she already sized you up instantly, better than you could ever imagine. Women are designed to size guys up in crazy detail

but congrats my friend, have fun, don’t be too needy. you are the Man.
 
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tesla8520 said:
Hello. I have been with several women in my life. (not as many as you)

With some of them, this thing happened to me: as soon as I wasn't in her presence, it was as if I missed her a lot.

I really missed the person.
And as soon as we saw each other again, I felt immense joy for this person.
A bit like your dog seeing you come home.
I instinctively smiled when I looked at her face.
And this thing never went away.


It has only happened to me with 2 women out of the 12 I have met and been with, both short and long relationships.

What does this mean, since it didn't happen with the other 10?
Has this ever happened to you?
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With more women than I can count …. 12? Make it 36 and report back
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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tesla8520 said:
Hello. I have been with several women in my life. (not as many as you)

With some of them, this thing happened to me: as soon as I wasn't in her presence, it was as if I missed her a lot.

I really missed the person.
And as soon as we saw each other again, I felt immense joy for this person.
A bit like your dog seeing you come home.
I instinctively smiled when I looked at her face.
And this thing never went away.


It has only happened to me with 2 women out of the 12 I have met and been with, both short and long relationships.

What does this mean, since it didn't happen with the other 10?
Has this ever happened to you?
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The first really hot girl(former bikini model) I ever dated caused me to feel similar as well as anxious. After our first date, I couldn't even sleep. Even though our connection was there, our romantic relationship was never great, it was on and off for 3yrs. Her and I remained in contact somewhat for over 15yrs until she died.

As I've grown older and more experienced, women don't yield as much power over how I feel. I am in charge of my thoughts/feelings, not someone else. A lot of these reactions are driven by chemicals in your body that can cloud your logical/rational brain. Its like a buzz from drugs/alcohol or even sex. It doesn't mean she is good for you or you have some amazing relationship even though you experience a good feeling. Its just a bunch of chemical reactions.

Take a more honest, rational assessment if you want something that will last.
 
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tesla8520 said:
I really missed the person.
And as soon as we saw each other again, I felt immense joy for this person.
I instinctively smiled when I looked at her face.
And this thing never went away.

It has only happened to me with 2 women out of the 12 I have met and been with, both short and long relationships.

What does this mean, since it didn't happen with the other 10?
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This means the 2 were under 30, never married, no kids, and hot.
 
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The Duke said:
Take a more honest, rational assessment if you want something that will last.
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Know friends who got this relationship
The Duke said:
I couldn't even sleep. Even though our connection was there, our romantic relationship was never great, it was on and off for 3yrs.
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further, now have kids and marriages.

So toxic
 
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