That Joy when You see her again

[tesla8520]

Hello. I have been with several women in my life. (not as many as you)

With some of them, this thing happened to me: as soon as I wasn't in her presence, it was as if I missed her a lot.

I really missed the person.
And as soon as we saw each other again, I felt immense joy for this person.
A bit like your dog seeing you come home.
I instinctively smiled when I looked at her face.
And this thing never went away.


It has only happened to me with 2 women out of the 12 I have met and been with, both short and long relationships.

What does this mean, since it didn't happen with the other 10?
Has this ever happened to you?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It means to a large degree she was an external source of validation to you.

 

[tesla8520]

It means to a large degree she was an external source of validation to you.

This happened to them too.

Is it a bad thing?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This happened to them too.

Is it a bad thing?

Not unless it caused some form of co-dependency and cause a loss of sense of self.

 

[Lauel]

This happened to them too.

Is it a bad thing?

It's not. You discovered deep feeling of attachment in the person, or maybe love if it's true and genuine.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Fvck is wrong with you people.

People meet each other and they like each other.

They think about each other when they are apart and then get happy when they see each other again.

Did you just arrive on planet Earth recently and not know how normal humans operate?

wtf

 

[BaronOfHair]

What does this mean, since it didn't happen with the other 10?
Has this ever happened to you?

Yeah, then I realized: "You believe you MUST have her, the way a dope fiend believes he can't survive day to day life without a suitcase filled with syringes and black tar smack underneath the bed"

Subsequently, I began remedying this particular flaw in my psyche, with varying degrees of success

 

[intricate design]

Sounds like Tesla found some good poon

but You also mentioned that you've only had a few. Tis probably not the case for the gal you’ve mentioned because chances are sky high she has the same effect on other dudes

and she already sized you up instantly, better than you could ever imagine. Women are designed to size guys up in crazy detail

but congrats my friend, have fun, don’t be too needy. you are the Man.

 

[THE OX HTX]

Hello. I have been with several women in my life. (not as many as you)

With some of them, this thing happened to me: as soon as I wasn't in her presence, it was as if I missed her a lot.

I really missed the person.
And as soon as we saw each other again, I felt immense joy for this person.
A bit like your dog seeing you come home.
I instinctively smiled when I looked at her face.
And this thing never went away.


It has only happened to me with 2 women out of the 12 I have met and been with, both short and long relationships.

What does this mean, since it didn't happen with the other 10?
Has this ever happened to you?

With more women than I can count …. 12? Make it 36 and report back

 

[intricate design]

Tesla is a player. Age?

 

[The Duke]

Hello. I have been with several women in my life. (not as many as you)

With some of them, this thing happened to me: as soon as I wasn't in her presence, it was as if I missed her a lot.

I really missed the person.
And as soon as we saw each other again, I felt immense joy for this person.
A bit like your dog seeing you come home.
I instinctively smiled when I looked at her face.
And this thing never went away.


It has only happened to me with 2 women out of the 12 I have met and been with, both short and long relationships.

What does this mean, since it didn't happen with the other 10?
Has this ever happened to you?

The first really hot girl(former bikini model) I ever dated caused me to feel similar as well as anxious. After our first date, I couldn't even sleep. Even though our connection was there, our romantic relationship was never great, it was on and off for 3yrs. Her and I remained in contact somewhat for over 15yrs until she died.

As I've grown older and more experienced, women don't yield as much power over how I feel. I am in charge of my thoughts/feelings, not someone else. A lot of these reactions are driven by chemicals in your body that can cloud your logical/rational brain. Its like a buzz from drugs/alcohol or even sex. It doesn't mean she is good for you or you have some amazing relationship even though you experience a good feeling. Its just a bunch of chemical reactions.

Take a more honest, rational assessment if you want something that will last.

 

[BadBoy89]

I really missed the person.
And as soon as we saw each other again, I felt immense joy for this person.
I instinctively smiled when I looked at her face.
And this thing never went away.

It has only happened to me with 2 women out of the 12 I have met and been with, both short and long relationships.

What does this mean, since it didn't happen with the other 10?

This means the 2 were under 30, never married, no kids, and hot.

 

[tesla8520]

Take a more honest, rational assessment if you want something that will last.

Know friends who got this relationship

I couldn't even sleep. Even though our connection was there, our romantic relationship was never great, it was on and off for 3yrs.

further, now have kids and marriages.

So toxic