texts before a date

pyros

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So, do you guys try to get to know a girl, just a bit, before you ask her out?
or do you , for example, get her number one night, talk to her for 3 minutes (you get her name, age, and some random information about her), then some day you text her mainly to ask her out on a date?

I say this because a few times I've been on a date with a girl I barely knew (just her name and what she studied) and I realised I didn't like her once I had spoken to her for , lets say, 20 minutes, so it was disapointing and a waste of time. So maybe it is better to chat a bit, exchange a few texts, and see if you click at least via text? or to see if you have things in common before going on a date?

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You won't know if you like her until you meet. Plus if she likes you you can f uck even if you don't like her. I would anyway.
 

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Just curious, how is this situation arising? Through online dating?

Anytime you get a girl's number, you should at least be talking to her long enough to get her interested to the point where asking for her number is pretty much just a formality, and you don't need to be worried about developing rapport over text before you ask her out.

If it's online dating though, I have no idea, as I've never done it. You're not going to get to know anyone over text anyway.
 

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I get to know her on the walk to and at the venue during the instadate that we're on.
 

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Solid advice if she answers, but what if you get voicemail. What's your follow up?
I usually wait a week and try again. If she doesn't answer again, I may text in another 48 hours and ask for the date via text. If she doesn't answer the phone or get back to you in 9 days, she isn't interested enough to ever go out with you
 

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I usually wait a week and try again. If she doesn't answer again, I may text in another 48 hours and ask for the date via text. If she doesn't answer the phone or get back to you in 9 days, she isn't interested enough to ever go out with you
The only problem I have with this is some people don't answer the phone if it's an unrecognized number. You might not be saved as a contact. I personally get a call or two a day from unrecognized numbers and rarely do I answer them because I know it's usually BS. If it's important they'll leave a voicemail.
 

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The only problem I have with this is some people don't answer the phone if it's an unrecognized number. You might not be saved as a contact. I personally get a call or two a day from unrecognized numbers and rarely do I answer them because I know it's usually BS. If it's important they'll leave a voicemail.
Wait 48 hours and ask em via text. I really just rinse and repeat. If she doesn't save you as a contact, you're already pretty low on her priority list.
 

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If she doesn't save you as a contact, you're already pretty low on her priority list.
I don't know that's definitely debatable. She couldn't anyways if you just got her number and haven't texted
 
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