"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Texting Women on Vacation?

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So we all know that the whole point of texting is to meet in person. But what if you literally can’t meet them in person for a while, if she’s on vacation?

Should I just send her value giving texts intermittently?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So we all know that the whole point of texting is to meet in person. But what if you literally can’t meet them in person for a while, if she’s on vacation?

Should I just send her value giving texts intermittently?
You just answered your own question.
 

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So we all know that the whole point of texting is to meet in person. But what if you literally can’t meet them in person for a while, if she’s on vacation?

Should I just send her value giving texts intermittently?
You should definitely send the occasional text if you can’t see the person or the interest will fade.
 

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You should definitely send the occasional text if you can’t see the person or the interest will fade.
False. Attraction is not contingent on sending texts. A woman is not suddenly going to lose attraction because you didn't text her during vacation.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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False. Attraction is not contingent on sending texts. A woman is not suddenly going to lose attraction because you didn't text her during vacation.
I once had a woman tell me she was leaving on a cruise that day and I didn't text her again...3 weeks later she sends me a text asking if I lost interest because she was on a cruise...told her no I just figured she would let me know when she got back...

So I set up a date, we meet and I bang her the same night. If a woman is interested she will be interested...
 

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False. Attraction is not contingent on sending texts. A woman is not suddenly going to lose attraction because you didn't text her during vacation.
Sure it is. Attraction declines over time. That is exactly why NC works as a personal healing mechanism.
 

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I think a certain degree of not giving a fvck is important, and high IL women will always take longer to lose interest, but attraction fades from long periods of no contact, especially in the beginning and before sex.

I got 2 numbers one weekend from chicks who seemed really into me. This was right after I discovered sosuave, and I tested the “wait 4 days” rule before texting them. Neither replied. From then on I’ve always texted next day and I’ve had a high rate of texts back.
 

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I think a certain degree of not giving a fvck is important, and high IL women will always take longer to lose interest, but attraction fades from long periods of no contact, especially in the beginning and before sex.

I got 2 numbers one weekend from chicks who seemed really into me. This was right after I discovered sosuave, and I tested the “wait 4 days” rule before texting them. Neither replied. From then on I’ve always texted next day and I’ve had a high rate of texts back.
This is why I never really agreed with the idea “text only for logistics”
 

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I would send her a text right before vacation and say “I hope your vacation is good and that you don’t get arrested too many times. If you want to take a break from partying send me a text and let me know how it’s going. Otherwise I will see you when you get back.”
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I like to contact 2 - 3 days after I last heard from her. Just saying, hope you are having fun on your vacation. Looking forward in seeing you again when you get back. If she replies with a question, I'd follow up a day or so later. Minimal things just to keep things fluid.
 
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I text whenever I want. Never two in a row. Answer back whenever I feel like it.

I’ve had very good success staying in communication every other day or so. It’s not about trying to get her. I just engage her. Much progress can be done through text.
When it turns to sex...I pull back just a little then after it sinks into her, I engage again. Then it’s on.

It’s just a tool. It’s not a be all or end all to anything. If she doesn’t text back, I never text again. Ever. As far as I’m concerned she’s gone. Surprisingly they do text back and then I send one or two word texts. It’s not a stupid PUA trick. I refuse to invest until she starts to come alive. She’s the one missing out and I truly believe that down in my core.
 

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I would send her a text right before vacation and say “I hope your vacation is good and that you don’t get arrested too many times. If you want to take a break from partying send me a text and let me know how it’s going. Otherwise I will see you when you get back.”
^^this

If she's currently on vacation, send the message with that context "I hope your vacation is going well..."

You'll show interest and also display that your aren't needy or clingy
 
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