"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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sosumba

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So how can you be playfull about this when girl says something like:
"Have people told you that you look like [insert some celebrity name with same physical quality as you]?"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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GreatHornedOwl

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That seems like an odd thing to say from a woman who is interested in you, but...

Regardless, I would respond with "No".
 

Barrister

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So how can you be playfull about this when girl says something like:
"Have people told you that you look like [insert some celebrity name with same physical quality as you]?"
Be playful back. Tell her she looks like whatever celebrity is with the celebrity she said you look like even if she looks nothing like them.

You can build rapport through texting so long as you don’t overdo it.
 

Xenom0rph

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Back in 2007, 50 Cent and Justin Timberlake said some truly prophetic words:

"...ayo, I'm tired of using technology, why don't you come sit on top of me?
............ayo, I'm tired of using technology, I need you in right front of me......."
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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