"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I met this girl on tinder and went out with her on a coffee date yesterday. It went well, thinking up how I should reply to her last text. I could go sexual with the masseuse thing. But I went too sexual via text with the last girl and ended up scaring her off. Any tips appreciated
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Welcome.

Note my edit..ask for the date.

If she agrees to meet you this weekend, reward her with continued (though limited) texting, but let HER start the sexual stuff via text. Don't initiate it via text.
I would argue she he already initiated the sexual innuendo. It’s fair game for OP
 

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I met this girl on tinder and went out with her on a coffee date yesterday. It went well, thinking up how I should reply to her last text. I could go sexual with the masseuse thing. But I went too sexual via text with the last girl and ended up scaring her off. Any tips appreciated
I think guys need to learn when to STOP texting. That was a good ending point for that conversation. The convo wasn’t going anywhere.
She even threw in a little fish hook for you to nibble on to help you get the lay. “Gym makes her so sore she needs a massage”
So when you schedule the second date you could dangle the carrot of a “massage” at the end of the date, which we all know means sex

I would have let that text rest until I was ready to schedule a second date, personally. I think she digs you man, you should definitely invite her on a more action packed second date, amusement park with roller coasters would be clutch or a gun range, go carts something with a little bit of adrenaline.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I think guys need to learn when to STOP texting. That was a good ending point for that conversation. The convo wasn’t going anywhere.
She even threw in a little fish hook for you to nibble on to help you get the lay. “Gym makes her so sore she needs a massage”
So when you schedule the second date you could dangle the carrot of a “massage” at the end of the date, which we all know means sex

I would have let that text rest until I was ready to schedule a second date, personally. I think she digs you man, you should definitely invite her on a more action packed second date, amusement park with roller coasters would be clutch or a gun range, go carts something with a little bit of adrenaline.
Problem now is I won’t be able to see her again for at least a week. I’m flying home to visit the fam for a few days. Should I just not text her? Maybe text her pics of cool **** when I’m there, going out on hikes or whatever I end up doing.
 

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A week ain’t that long bro, send her a picture of you doing some cool stuff back home, but if she really likes you a week won’t change anything.
Problem now is I won’t be able to see her again for at least a week. I’m flying home to visit the fam for a few days. Should I just not text her? Maybe text her pics of cool **** when I’m there, going out on hikes or whatever I end up doing.
 

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A week ain’t that long bro, send her a picture of you doing some cool stuff back home, but if she really likes you a week won’t change anything.
Thx man
 

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So I ended up meeting her for a couple drinks at a pub tonight and it went great in my books. I think she’s definitely into me, got a pretty solid kiss in when we said our goodbyes. I think I could of easily ****ed her tonight. But I have to be at the airport in a few hours and had to come home to pack.

Any advice on texting afterwards? Should texting be just for making plans to meet up? or is ok to bs and chat with her via text between meetups? Any good tips or articles on text game?
 

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“When you free I’ll come give your legs a good stretch (tongue wink emoji)”

Don’t let a free shot like that slide. Take all your shots! We are adults.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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