"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Text game: How do you be fun and playful when she disqualifies herself?

baurman

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One of my favorite techniques in game is using disqualification. But what if she is already disqualifying herself? Do you try to get her to qualify or what would you say to handle these sotuations?

Here's an example:
Her: I'm getting a facial treatment
You: Show me
Her: No make-up
You: Natural is better
Her: But maybe natural will make you scared. I'm ugly

So obviously she's not ugly but isn't being compliant when I tell her to show me a pic and says no make-up will make me scared. So you can't disqualify her but you shouldn't qualify her either because she didn't earn it. So how do you be fun and playful in a conversation like this? Some examples would be nice.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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claudolfgeorgini

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The whole qualify/disqualify game through text doesn't work in the first place.

Just say "you're not ugly" and change the topic.

You make a woman qualify herself through ACTIONS. Things she does for you.

And she'll only do those things if she's interested in you.
 

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She's not being compliant....LMFAO

#nextset
 

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"Yeah I know...I've always been more attracted to your personality anyway"
 

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She's not being compliant....LMFAO

#nextset
Why would you give up so easily? What good would nexting a girl for me be? l don't get too obsessed over a girl so I can keep many girls in my phone without getting attached. You only next if you are a beginner and you get too emotionally invested in a girl so you need to next her to be strong and move on.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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sazc

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Why would you give up so easily? What good would nexting a girl for me be? l don't get too obsessed over a girl so I can keep many girls in my phone without getting attached. You only next if you are a beginner and you get too emotionally invested in a girl so you need to next her to be strong and move on.
you said it yourself, you have a ton of girls in your phone. Why would you bother spinning your wheels on one girl that's not being compliant?

#nextset
 
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One of my favorite techniques in game is using disqualification. But what if she is already disqualifying herself? Do you try to get her to qualify or what would you say to handle these sotuations?

Here's an example:
Her: I'm getting a facial treatment
You: Show me
Her: No make-up
You: Natural is better
Her: But maybe natural will make you scared. I'm ugly

So obviously she's not ugly but isn't being compliant when I tell her to show me a pic and says no make-up will make me scared. So you can't disqualify her but you shouldn't qualify her either because she didn't earn it. So how do you be fun and playful in a conversation like this? Some examples would be nice.
All this #nextset stuff is just living in denial. A defense mechanism so you can pretend you're still in charge.
 

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Why would you give up so easily? What good would nexting a girl for me be? l don't get too obsessed over a girl so I can keep many girls in my phone without getting attached. You only next if you are a beginner and you get too emotionally invested in a girl so you need to next her to be strong and move on.
I wouldn’t next her over something this little. I’d go with what Marmel posted. It’s good because it’s like a push pull type thing. She will be like wait did he just agree I’m ugly? But then you’re complimenting at the same time with the personality bit.

Most guys would be like no no you’re beautiful yada yada and that will not make her puzzy wet lol
 

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"If I get too scared I´ll text you 911 or something so be ready to call an ambulance".
 

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It makes perfect sense that she wouldn't want to show you a picture of herself when she isn't at her best. IMO you are overthinking things and making too big a deal over this. Imagine if you tell a chick that you are 'paying bills', then she responds. "Let me see your checking account balance." Is that reasonable?

My advice is to use some common sense, and respond "Okay, I can't wait to see the results" Then make a date.
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If you don't know what she actually looks like without make up, you shouldn't be too concerned. The most attractive women are better with minimal war paint.
 
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