"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Text game: How do you be fun and playful when she disqualifies herself?

baurman

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One of my favorite techniques in game is using disqualification. But what if she is already disqualifying herself? Do you try to get her to qualify or what would you say to handle these sotuations?

Here's an example:
Her: I'm getting a facial treatment
You: Show me
Her: No make-up
You: Natural is better
Her: But maybe natural will make you scared. I'm ugly

So obviously she's not ugly but isn't being compliant when I tell her to show me a pic and says no make-up will make me scared. So you can't disqualify her but you shouldn't qualify her either because she didn't earn it. So how do you be fun and playful in a conversation like this? Some examples would be nice.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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claudolfgeorgini

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The whole qualify/disqualify game through text doesn't work in the first place.

Just say "you're not ugly" and change the topic.

You make a woman qualify herself through ACTIONS. Things she does for you.

And she'll only do those things if she's interested in you.
 

sazc

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She's not being compliant....LMFAO

#nextset
 

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"Yeah I know...I've always been more attracted to your personality anyway"
 

baurman

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She's not being compliant....LMFAO

#nextset
Why would you give up so easily? What good would nexting a girl for me be? l don't get too obsessed over a girl so I can keep many girls in my phone without getting attached. You only next if you are a beginner and you get too emotionally invested in a girl so you need to next her to be strong and move on.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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sazc

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Why would you give up so easily? What good would nexting a girl for me be? l don't get too obsessed over a girl so I can keep many girls in my phone without getting attached. You only next if you are a beginner and you get too emotionally invested in a girl so you need to next her to be strong and move on.
you said it yourself, you have a ton of girls in your phone. Why would you bother spinning your wheels on one girl that's not being compliant?

#nextset
 
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One of my favorite techniques in game is using disqualification. But what if she is already disqualifying herself? Do you try to get her to qualify or what would you say to handle these sotuations?

Here's an example:
Her: I'm getting a facial treatment
You: Show me
Her: No make-up
You: Natural is better
Her: But maybe natural will make you scared. I'm ugly

So obviously she's not ugly but isn't being compliant when I tell her to show me a pic and says no make-up will make me scared. So you can't disqualify her but you shouldn't qualify her either because she didn't earn it. So how do you be fun and playful in a conversation like this? Some examples would be nice.
All this #nextset stuff is just living in denial. A defense mechanism so you can pretend you're still in charge.
 

MrJack

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Why would you give up so easily? What good would nexting a girl for me be? l don't get too obsessed over a girl so I can keep many girls in my phone without getting attached. You only next if you are a beginner and you get too emotionally invested in a girl so you need to next her to be strong and move on.
I wouldn’t next her over something this little. I’d go with what Marmel posted. It’s good because it’s like a push pull type thing. She will be like wait did he just agree I’m ugly? But then you’re complimenting at the same time with the personality bit.

Most guys would be like no no you’re beautiful yada yada and that will not make her puzzy wet lol
 

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"If I get too scared I´ll text you 911 or something so be ready to call an ambulance".
 

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It makes perfect sense that she wouldn't want to show you a picture of herself when she isn't at her best. IMO you are overthinking things and making too big a deal over this. Imagine if you tell a chick that you are 'paying bills', then she responds. "Let me see your checking account balance." Is that reasonable?

My advice is to use some common sense, and respond "Okay, I can't wait to see the results" Then make a date.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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TheMonkeyKing

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If you don't know what she actually looks like without make up, you shouldn't be too concerned. The most attractive women are better with minimal war paint.
 
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