"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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theNEWDJ

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I told this girl that I hooked up with to to call me when i saw her at school, and she didnt haha, then i saw her again 2 days later and told her to call me hahaha

anyway do u think its good to tell a girl to call u or is that for the dude to do?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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kev me723

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most girls wont unless you are going out or they're really into you, and you should prob. give a specific time to call you no matter what. they're not reliable
 

AC/DC

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Tell her you'll give her a call "later". Call her like 4 days later juss to say hi, ask how her day was, maybe share what you did, and be nice.
 

j8snx1

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Yeah I'll agree with AC/DC with this one.

I tried telling the girl to call me (not after a #close, but with a girl I knew for a little bit) but no luck. So I guess if you tell the girl to call you, you're sort of gambling there. Depends on her IL for you I bet.
 

DJ4Real

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Most girls are flakes. Even if a girl likes you; she still has potential to flake out on you. What you should do is get her number and tell her that, "I'll call you sometime." After you do that, wait a few day and then call her.

The reasons why DJ's wait a few days:

1. It creates mystery.

2. It shows that you have a life.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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