"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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illmatic1005

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every girl im with always tells me i never tell them how i feel...

i do it thru actions tho...

should i tell them how i feel or what??
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Sun Tzu

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Your question is much too general. Give us an example. Do you mean "how you feel about her, your relationship, etc.", or just everything in general?

Elaborate and we will grace you with our wisdom.
 

Incog

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illmatic1005 said:
every girl im with always tells me i never tell them how i feel...

i do it thru actions tho...

should i tell them how i feel or what??
Never.
 

Micheal Moon

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I don't recommend it all.

Show her you like her through action (kino etc). She'll get the picture.

I had a good little thing a while back w/ girl and heard she liked me. I told her the same thing and it went all downhill from there.

I should have just trusted my instincts and let things develop. Funny thing is I know better, I guess it was just a rookie mistake.

I was a fool for doing that.
 

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Depends on her personality and your personality. If she's the type that likes someone who likes to gush out feelings she will probably be the type that doesn't mind people gushing out feeling.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TheHumanist

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Incog said:
Wait. Wait. Let's not go to general ourselves. I'm not the best or qualified person to give advice, but someone have to say it.

There is a "it depends on what you mean" thing going. Yes, actions is the perfer way to express how you feel, and it is recommended to stick with it.

However, it does not mean all feelings should be hidden and you can never say anything about how you feel about her. The danger is the AFC action of saying "I love you" repeatedly like some sick puppy dog starved for love with no ounce of self-respect for yourself or any dignity.

To quote from someone I can't remember who deliberate on this subject, he say its ok to tell her how you feel and then he goes and say since some people are too afraid, he suggest to start with things like "I care about you."

Is that so dangerous? Would a line like that will kill all her interest and make her run straight to the next guy she she sees?

The point is, if you mean sitting her down and spew a confesion of undying love larger than what came out during the eruption of Mount Saint Helens? Hells no.

If you mean if it ok to express concern or write a note after not seeing her for a while like "I miss you" or tell her, when appropriate, a word of what you think of her? That's ok, but then kiss her.
 

tjf420

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betterthandead said:
Depends on her personality and your personality. If she's the type that likes someone who likes to gush out feelings she will probably be the type that doesn't mind people gushing out feeling.

hahaha.. that is great
 

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in the beginning... absolutely not... But if you already have had sex, then why not? She needs rapport and connection.. especially if shes YOUR girl.
 

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Consider telling these women how you appreciate them. You don't need to profess an undying love for them but every once in a while on a spur of the moment basis tell them something simple like "You know, I like having you around." You'd be surprised at how that can keep the relationship viable and your ego preserved. :up:
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Consider telling these women how you appreciate them. You don't need to profess an undying love for them but every once in a while on a spur of the moment basis tell them something simple like "You know, I like having you around." You'd be surprised at how that can keep the relationship viable and your ego preserved. :up:
Yup, Its ok to tell a woman a LITTLE how you feel bout them.
 

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i think it's o.k to tell her u love in a long term relationship just not in the first while and not to much
 
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