"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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illmatic1005

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every girl im with always tells me i never tell them how i feel...

i do it thru actions tho...

should i tell them how i feel or what??
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Sun Tzu

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Your question is much too general. Give us an example. Do you mean "how you feel about her, your relationship, etc.", or just everything in general?

Elaborate and we will grace you with our wisdom.
 

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illmatic1005 said:
every girl im with always tells me i never tell them how i feel...

i do it thru actions tho...

should i tell them how i feel or what??
Never.
 

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I don't recommend it all.

Show her you like her through action (kino etc). She'll get the picture.

I had a good little thing a while back w/ girl and heard she liked me. I told her the same thing and it went all downhill from there.

I should have just trusted my instincts and let things develop. Funny thing is I know better, I guess it was just a rookie mistake.

I was a fool for doing that.
 

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Depends on her personality and your personality. If she's the type that likes someone who likes to gush out feelings she will probably be the type that doesn't mind people gushing out feeling.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Incog said:
Wait. Wait. Let's not go to general ourselves. I'm not the best or qualified person to give advice, but someone have to say it.

There is a "it depends on what you mean" thing going. Yes, actions is the perfer way to express how you feel, and it is recommended to stick with it.

However, it does not mean all feelings should be hidden and you can never say anything about how you feel about her. The danger is the AFC action of saying "I love you" repeatedly like some sick puppy dog starved for love with no ounce of self-respect for yourself or any dignity.

To quote from someone I can't remember who deliberate on this subject, he say its ok to tell her how you feel and then he goes and say since some people are too afraid, he suggest to start with things like "I care about you."

Is that so dangerous? Would a line like that will kill all her interest and make her run straight to the next guy she she sees?

The point is, if you mean sitting her down and spew a confesion of undying love larger than what came out during the eruption of Mount Saint Helens? Hells no.

If you mean if it ok to express concern or write a note after not seeing her for a while like "I miss you" or tell her, when appropriate, a word of what you think of her? That's ok, but then kiss her.
 

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betterthandead said:
Depends on her personality and your personality. If she's the type that likes someone who likes to gush out feelings she will probably be the type that doesn't mind people gushing out feeling.

hahaha.. that is great
 

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in the beginning... absolutely not... But if you already have had sex, then why not? She needs rapport and connection.. especially if shes YOUR girl.
 

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Consider telling these women how you appreciate them. You don't need to profess an undying love for them but every once in a while on a spur of the moment basis tell them something simple like "You know, I like having you around." You'd be surprised at how that can keep the relationship viable and your ego preserved. :up:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Consider telling these women how you appreciate them. You don't need to profess an undying love for them but every once in a while on a spur of the moment basis tell them something simple like "You know, I like having you around." You'd be surprised at how that can keep the relationship viable and your ego preserved. :up:
Yup, Its ok to tell a woman a LITTLE how you feel bout them.
 

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i think it's o.k to tell her u love in a long term relationship just not in the first while and not to much
 
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