Tell me what I'm doing wrong?

[R2Change]

5 years dating great, past 2 married - no so great....

Issues we fight over..

1. I'm trying to tell her a story or a fact & she tells me I'm wrong or that's not the way it goes?
My reaction: I blow up

2. I tell her personal family stuff as she tells me personal family stuff?
I listen, empathize and move on...She takes stuff personally and thinks that's a bad cousin or bad uncle, I'm never going to talk to them...I'm like What? This is just fun married couple stuff to talk about? After she says stuff like that...
My reaction : I blow up

3. She initiates certain ideas such as let's go buy plane tickets and see your family? I'm telling her, are sure we have enough money, yeah more than enough...so we set it up, I tell my parents and a month before the trip, she's angry and crying saying we don't have enough money...I bring up the fact that i brought the money issue before...but she saying we had enough but i didn't expect it to cost this much...
My reaction : I blow up

Tell me what I'm doing wrong? So, I can correct it...

 

[FastMen]

I think you should not try to solve the problems, just listen to her...ive been there .
About the money issue is a tought spot, no simple bullsht , So you might as well save some... or tell the truth

 

[Amazing]

Not really sure because even I can't understand what you are talking about.

 

[R2Change]

Where do you need clarafication?

I probably wasn't real clear...I wrote it quickly...What part don't you understand?

 

[Amazing]

"""1. I'm trying to tell her a story or a fact & she tells me I'm wrong or that's not the way it goes?
"""

you forgot to write you say this to other people.. i read it as you telling her a story and she correct you, which made no sense.

control your woman. tell her what you need her to do (STFU when you tell a story) if she can't do this then why did you even pick her

 

[R2Change]

@ Fastman

I think you're right...I do need to work not solving the problem & just listening...I use to be good at that when we we're dating, now w/ each argument I get less and less patient....but absolutely...I need to get back to not solving problems and understanding her point of view even if it is at odds w/ me...

 

[Amazing]

Yeah that one is big, they just want to vent, they rarely want you to tell them waht to do - my buddy will tell his gf "DONT TALK TO THAT CHICK SHE SUCKS" and then next time she complains again about her he goes ??????????? i told you what to do and you ignored it and then she gets mad at HIM

just listen and "Uh huh, go on, I told you that ***** crazy" is all you need.

Which is stupid because if they listened may be they would make things better

 

[Captain]

Calm the fvck down. You can cold-shoulder a woman without blowing up in anger.

 

[Trader]

5 years dating great, past 2 married - no so great....

Issues we fight over..

1. I'm trying to tell her a story or a fact & she tells me I'm wrong or that's not the way it goes?
My reaction: I blow up

2. I tell her personal family stuff as she tells me personal family stuff?
I listen, empathize and move on...She takes stuff personally and thinks that's a bad cousin or bad uncle, I'm never going to talk to them...I'm like What? This is just fun married couple stuff to talk about? After she says stuff like that...
My reaction : I blow up

3. She initiates certain ideas such as let's go buy plane tickets and see your family? I'm telling her, are sure we have enough money, yeah more than enough...so we set it up, I tell my parents and a month before the trip, she's angry and crying saying we don't have enough money...I bring up the fact that i brought the money issue before...but she saying we had enough but i didn't expect it to cost this much...
My reaction : I blow up

Tell me what I'm doing wrong? So, I can correct it...

You have a short fuse.

 

[hexx]

Damn dude, are you sure you're not some kind of bomb? Lighten up a bit!