"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Tell me if this chick is fat/how do i ask for more pictures?

blueline

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I checked my email this afternoon to find some chick initiating contact w/ me on OKC with the following message: "You're adorable!"

Duh, I can bang her.

However, her pictures are deceptive and are only like this:
http://i.imgur.com/aHKq3.jpg

She looks fat from that picture, but I simply cannot be sure.

How do I ask for more pictures without being a dick or wasting too much time talking to her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Crissco

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I usually go.."Send me a pic, ill send one back"...

But also they know before hand im a very direct tell it how it is person. Might work for you might not
 

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If a girl doesn't show you her body in a pic, there's usually a reason for it. Proceed with caution.
 

thedude4242

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funny thing is she looks skinny but seems shy. her face is not full at all and her shoulders look scrawny. I would bet she is skinny. fat people pop out she looks small.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BlackMack177

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if they are nott confident enough to show their body then something is probably wrong
 

Lovepotion84

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Just ask her ! Be ****y funny man .

like ; send me a pic of your full self , i want to make sure i'm not into a surprise later, like say you only have one leg , or no leggs at all ... like a mermaid :p

tease her .

btw ; i just subscribed on this forum , looks very nice .

grtz Lovepotion
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Johnnyventana

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She doesn't look fat, but still, not the most flattering photo. I wonder what she was expecting to portray.
 

Jariel

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Ask her to add you on Facebook. That's how I filter out any fat, ugly or fakes from dating sites. If they don't add you for one reason or another, just ask her for more photos and tell her you've encountered fakes before and am just a bit cautious.

Another thing I do is write on my profile that I'm looking for slim and feminine women. I also put a bit of a rant about girls who lie about their age or weight on their profile. I find it's makes a good opener and I get a lot of women contact me who say they like how straightforward I am and who say they can relate to what I'm saying as they've encountered liars and fakes too.
 

5string

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Now don't write this off just yet. Her face does not like it belongs to a whale. Then look at her left shoulder. Doesnt look like a fat arm although the top is baggy. Send her a couple of you and ask for another in return. You don't have anything to lose.

Then a FR.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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women haze

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She looks ok...I doubt she is fat, but she does seem a tad shy. How old is she? she looks older with that make up on
 

jammy1257

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Just say how do I know this is a real person and not a fake profile, ask for more pics?
 

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blueline said:
I checked my email this afternoon to find some chick initiating contact w/ me on OKC with the following message: "You're adorable!"

Duh, I can bang her.

However, her pictures are deceptive and are only like this:
http://i.imgur.com/aHKq3.jpg

She looks fat from that picture, but I simply cannot be sure.

How do I ask for more pictures without being a dick or wasting too much time talking to her.
Umm by saying hey do you have a full body pic?
Whats so hard about that?
why do guys here over think stuff like this
 
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