"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Tell me if this chick is fat/how do i ask for more pictures?

blueline

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I checked my email this afternoon to find some chick initiating contact w/ me on OKC with the following message: "You're adorable!"

Duh, I can bang her.

However, her pictures are deceptive and are only like this:
http://i.imgur.com/aHKq3.jpg

She looks fat from that picture, but I simply cannot be sure.

How do I ask for more pictures without being a dick or wasting too much time talking to her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Crissco

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I usually go.."Send me a pic, ill send one back"...

But also they know before hand im a very direct tell it how it is person. Might work for you might not
 

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If a girl doesn't show you her body in a pic, there's usually a reason for it. Proceed with caution.
 

thedude4242

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funny thing is she looks skinny but seems shy. her face is not full at all and her shoulders look scrawny. I would bet she is skinny. fat people pop out she looks small.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BlackMack177

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if they are nott confident enough to show their body then something is probably wrong
 

Lovepotion84

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Just ask her ! Be ****y funny man .

like ; send me a pic of your full self , i want to make sure i'm not into a surprise later, like say you only have one leg , or no leggs at all ... like a mermaid :p

tease her .

btw ; i just subscribed on this forum , looks very nice .

grtz Lovepotion
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Johnnyventana

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She doesn't look fat, but still, not the most flattering photo. I wonder what she was expecting to portray.
 

Jariel

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Ask her to add you on Facebook. That's how I filter out any fat, ugly or fakes from dating sites. If they don't add you for one reason or another, just ask her for more photos and tell her you've encountered fakes before and am just a bit cautious.

Another thing I do is write on my profile that I'm looking for slim and feminine women. I also put a bit of a rant about girls who lie about their age or weight on their profile. I find it's makes a good opener and I get a lot of women contact me who say they like how straightforward I am and who say they can relate to what I'm saying as they've encountered liars and fakes too.
 

5string

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Now don't write this off just yet. Her face does not like it belongs to a whale. Then look at her left shoulder. Doesnt look like a fat arm although the top is baggy. Send her a couple of you and ask for another in return. You don't have anything to lose.

Then a FR.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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women haze

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She looks ok...I doubt she is fat, but she does seem a tad shy. How old is she? she looks older with that make up on
 

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Just say how do I know this is a real person and not a fake profile, ask for more pics?
 

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blueline said:
I checked my email this afternoon to find some chick initiating contact w/ me on OKC with the following message: "You're adorable!"

Duh, I can bang her.

However, her pictures are deceptive and are only like this:
http://i.imgur.com/aHKq3.jpg

She looks fat from that picture, but I simply cannot be sure.

How do I ask for more pictures without being a dick or wasting too much time talking to her.
Umm by saying hey do you have a full body pic?
Whats so hard about that?
why do guys here over think stuff like this
 
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