"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Tell me daygame is better than Facebook?
- Thread starter Dreama
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
in facebook, there is no shyness or awkward moments for the girl
no fear of slut shaming
no fear of any kind of threat
in daygame you may come off as salesman, as any kind of person but a high status person
who wanders into streets, going after girl after girl? no one but a lifeless homeless horny person
that's my reasons, and there are many more
dk1990S111
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bcollarmechanic
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well they admire your confidence to walk up to them and start talking to them, a plus 1000 points in their book, even if she isnt interested in you as a sexual partner you still come off as positive, confident and open, which is something all djs need
i hate cold approaches as much as the next guy but its a way to get comfortable with women and a way to make yourself more outgoing and charismatic
something social media cant accomplish, so what if you get a date with a hot chick on facebook, when you meet in person and have no social skills, or you're not confident or you're not charismatic, you're just going to come off as a creeper in real life
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Something all DJs need is correct. Unless ur a mute or deaf you dont need to be talking to chicks through a key board.
Then when ur kid wants help meeting chicks you can say, just go on facebook and forget talking to her face to face.
What kind of crap are u guys talking about...geez louise....
Its fun talking to girls, seeing their skirts fly up as a gust of wind rolls by.
OP, youre doing it wrong if u think FB is better than day game.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
The past of most resistance will bring more personal growth and quality results sooner for those who have the nuts to not take the comfortable, easier path.
funny I trust most shy people will choose facebook because it make then less likely to make mistakes, but that is all, you already lose points with a girl just with it, unless you build your facebook just to show how much you ahve and only have good pics.Dreama said:
also it make me wonder, anyone who spend that much time on facebook don't have much else to do in life,
so enlightment me on why its better then really talking with a girl face to face?
because you can just copy and paste that write oppener you use? so everything you do is precise and to not make mistake?
boring no? are you not afraid to look like a boring person who only talk over social media? because the only fact to use facebook for this is because you are afraid of amke mistakes, or look needie or like you said a homeless (also make me wonder how you dress to make anyone think you are homeless).
hey just do what it works for you, but saying using facebook is better then really talking face to face, then you have too much to improve
BetterCallSaul
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browsing Facebook I've seen countless high status guys on Facebook, almost everybody have a Facebook
but men of lower social class have less access to social media, and therefore they go to the streets to pickup chicks, girls automatically assume you are a stalker or a salesman or some other worker-class person if you follow her in the streets, even if you really are a high status person
so wandering in the streets is a low-value sign
low-status guys are imitating the high-culture's dress and fashion. it's just transparent. even if you are a high status guy, and you dress fashionably you will still look like a try-hard in the streets. because that's low-value guys also dress fashionably to fool the girls.
just browse through some guys pictures on Facebook, you can easily spot the high status ones and there are many of them, when I browse their pictures my first impressions will change fast, i'll say "how cool the guy is"
how can you communicate all that in streets?
not possible.
you go "Hey, I just saw you from over there, and you look really nice, blah blah blah"
the girl's thought process will be "another lifeless chode wandering in the streets" "get away from me, I have better options on Facebook"
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Dreama said:
It is possible. The way you carry yourself, your tone of voice and your body language. If you are a high status man, even if it is reflected on your Facebook page and it is 100% true, you will know it to your core. This will all come across when you walk into her life and introduce yourself to her. If she likes you, you could potentially have a date on the spot.
Mr Wright
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You've made a shït load of assumptions there, if you're a cool guy and you approach on the street you have a much better chance than you do on facebook. Face to face kicks online's butt everyday of the week. But do what works for you, I think you're wrong but whatever.Dreama said:
2/ You can't be sure about her pictures and what she is looks like right now.
3/ there are subtle redflags you can't see using facebook
4/ If you make a profile to DHV and get dates, then you are already revealing too much
5/ When you spot an attractive girl outside, you can actually try gaming her. You're not going to add her on facebook first
6/ Because your friends will see you as a god when you succeed, and give you a good ego boost to your narcissist self.
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Skyline
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You can always ask her for a new picture.Shaka said:
I think In the streets, you can't really know what she really looks like, specially if she has makeup on
in Facebook not only you can see different pictures of her with different dresses and different angels.
you can also see what hobbies she has, what is her age, what is her social class, is she a quality woman or not
in streets you approach her based on her looks, in Facebook you approach her based not solely on her looks but also other aspects of her life
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PUAs don't want girls to get a sense of who they are. They want to fool them into thinking they are high status long enough that they sleep with them. By the time they find out different, it's too late. :yes:Dreama said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.