You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
well for a virgin, it's true, but if someone has had 1 or 2 or 3 girlfriends before, then he has enough social skills not to come off as a creeper.bcollarmechanic said:something social media cant accomplish, so what if you get a date with a hot chick on facebook, when you meet in person and have no social skills, or you're not confident or you're not charismatic, you're just going to come off as a creeper in real life
funny I trust most shy people will choose facebook because it make then less likely to make mistakes, but that is all, you already lose points with a girl just with it, unless you build your facebook just to show how much you ahve and only have good pics.Dreama said:well for a virgin, it's true, but if someone has had 1 or 2 or 3 girlfriends before, then he has enough social skills not to come off as a creeper.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dreama said:how can you communicate all that in streets?
not possible.
You've made a shït load of assumptions there, if you're a cool guy and you approach on the street you have a much better chance than you do on facebook. Face to face kicks online's butt everyday of the week. But do what works for you, I think you're wrong but whatever.Dreama said:Your reasons are not good enough
browsing Facebook I've seen countless high status guys on Facebook, almost everybody have a Facebook
but men of lower social class have less access to social media, and therefore they go to the streets to pickup chicks, girls automatically assume you are a stalker or a salesman or some other worker-class person if you follow her in the streets, even if you really are a high status person
so wandering in the streets is a low-value sign
low-status guys are imitating the high-culture's dress and fashion. it's just transparent. even if you are a high status guy, and you dress fashionably you will still look like a try-hard in the streets. because that's low-value guys also dress fashionably to fool the girls.
just browse through some guys pictures on Facebook, you can easily spot the high status ones and there are many of them, when I browse their pictures my first impressions will change fast, i'll say "how cool the guy is"
how can you communicate all that in streets?
not possible.
you go "Hey, I just saw you from over there, and you look really nice, blah blah blah"
the girl's thought process will be "another lifeless chode wandering in the streets" "get away from me, I have better options on Facebook"
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You can always ask her for a new picture.Shaka said:2/ You can't be sure about her pictures and what she is looks like right now.
I have done more than 5 hundred approachesbcollarmechanic said:just another troll trying to justify not going out and doing cold approaches
PUAs don't want girls to get a sense of who they are. They want to fool them into thinking they are high status long enough that they sleep with them. By the time they find out different, it's too late. :yes:Dreama said:in two three seconds of a direct opener you can't communicate who you are. it works but, in facebook the girl has the time to browse through all your pictures, and really get a good sense of who you are.
Agreed. Day game is for very low status desperate men. Lebron James would never day gameDreama said:in two three seconds of a direct opener you can't communicate who you are. it works but, in facebook the girl has the time to browse through all your pictures, and really get a good sense of who you are.
in facebook, there is no shyness or awkward moments for the girl
no fear of slut shaming
no fear of any kind of threat
in daygame you may come off as salesman, as any kind of person but a high status person
who wanders into streets, going after girl after girl? no one but a lifeless homeless horny person
that's my reasons, and there are many more
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.