"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Have a problem guys, here's the situation. Broke up with a girl, actually dumped her and she wasn't that happy about it.

She begged me to take her back, and was really hopeless at the time. But i didn't take her back. Anyway, she wanted to stay in touch.. so i said okey.. and we talked every 2 weeks or something.

Now i hear from people that she i talking behind my back.. and some really fvcked up ****. I have a good reputation, and nobody talks behind my back.

So don't know what i should do!

Already erased her number and email.. I'm sure that i do not want to have anything to do with her. It's just a waste of my Time.

QUESTION
Should i let it go, cause even if she talks.. everyone will forget it soon. OR should i do something about it.. ?

Anyone experienced the same, ADVICE??
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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anyone? ,, just wanna know how some of you deal with these things!
 
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If the talking behind your back is true then she obviously hates you for dumping her. Staying in touch with her just gives her more information about you for her to talk about ..so if i was you i would stop talking to her and when you see her again tell her to stop talking behind your back and get over it
 
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Just let it go, and if anyone brings it up, make known that she's BSing. But if you get all worked up over it, it'll probably encourage her to do it more because she sees it having an effect. And others will assume there's a reason you're getting so agitated, ie., because the rumors are true.

Oh, and yeah, stop talking to her and tell her why.
 
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I think you're already taking the right steps. Ignore her, she's dead to you now. Don't let her know why, she doesn't deserve it. Don't take interest in her sh!ttalking either.

If she manages to contact you again tell her she "burned this bridge", you're over it, but she "needs to get a life" followed by you completely isolating her. That cold harsh reality check almost always works for anyone who plays games like that.

..If your friends are relaying this information just repeat the same to them: you don't care what she says because she's pathetic and she needs to get a life.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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grr said:
I think you're already taking the right steps. Ignore her, she's dead to you now. Don't let her know why, she doesn't deserve it. Don't take interest in her sh!ttalking either.

If she manages to contact you again tell her she "burned this bridge", you're over it, but she "needs to get a life" followed by you completely isolating her. That cold harsh reality check almost always works for anyone who plays games like that.

..If your friends are relaying this information just repeat the same to them: you don't care what she says because she's pathetic and she needs to get a life.
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Good advice grr.

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Thx guys, just wanted to know if i was on the right path!..

The b****ting from her isn't true, okey that she thinks that i am a a*sshole for dumping her i can understand.. but making stories up to look her look good and me bad.. ain't.

'But i don't give a fvck anymore, good advice man.. When i heard that she talking behind my back, the first thing that i did.. was deleting everything from her. Decided for myself that keeping in touch was a bad thing, and learned from it!

Anyway, the question is still: when i see her, should i tell something about the talking behind my back, or just keep cool and ignore her ?..

And if she contacts me, another way.. phone or mail. Then i'll tell her that she ruined her chances with being just friends with me, and that she should stop bugging me and get a life.
 
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