"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Talking behind ur back??

Faca

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Have a problem guys, here's the situation. Broke up with a girl, actually dumped her and she wasn't that happy about it.

She begged me to take her back, and was really hopeless at the time. But i didn't take her back. Anyway, she wanted to stay in touch.. so i said okey.. and we talked every 2 weeks or something.

Now i hear from people that she i talking behind my back.. and some really fvcked up ****. I have a good reputation, and nobody talks behind my back.

So don't know what i should do!

Already erased her number and email.. I'm sure that i do not want to have anything to do with her. It's just a waste of my Time.

QUESTION
Should i let it go, cause even if she talks.. everyone will forget it soon. OR should i do something about it.. ?

Anyone experienced the same, ADVICE??
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Faca

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anyone? ,, just wanna know how some of you deal with these things!
 

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If the talking behind your back is true then she obviously hates you for dumping her. Staying in touch with her just gives her more information about you for her to talk about ..so if i was you i would stop talking to her and when you see her again tell her to stop talking behind your back and get over it
 

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Just let it go, and if anyone brings it up, make known that she's BSing. But if you get all worked up over it, it'll probably encourage her to do it more because she sees it having an effect. And others will assume there's a reason you're getting so agitated, ie., because the rumors are true.

Oh, and yeah, stop talking to her and tell her why.
 

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I think you're already taking the right steps. Ignore her, she's dead to you now. Don't let her know why, she doesn't deserve it. Don't take interest in her sh!ttalking either.

If she manages to contact you again tell her she "burned this bridge", you're over it, but she "needs to get a life" followed by you completely isolating her. That cold harsh reality check almost always works for anyone who plays games like that.

..If your friends are relaying this information just repeat the same to them: you don't care what she says because she's pathetic and she needs to get a life.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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grr said:
I think you're already taking the right steps. Ignore her, she's dead to you now. Don't let her know why, she doesn't deserve it. Don't take interest in her sh!ttalking either.

If she manages to contact you again tell her she "burned this bridge", you're over it, but she "needs to get a life" followed by you completely isolating her. That cold harsh reality check almost always works for anyone who plays games like that.

..If your friends are relaying this information just repeat the same to them: you don't care what she says because she's pathetic and she needs to get a life.
Good advice grr.

Gettinthere
 

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Thx guys, just wanted to know if i was on the right path!..

The b****ting from her isn't true, okey that she thinks that i am a a*sshole for dumping her i can understand.. but making stories up to look her look good and me bad.. ain't.

'But i don't give a fvck anymore, good advice man.. When i heard that she talking behind my back, the first thing that i did.. was deleting everything from her. Decided for myself that keeping in touch was a bad thing, and learned from it!

Anyway, the question is still: when i see her, should i tell something about the talking behind my back, or just keep cool and ignore her ?..

And if she contacts me, another way.. phone or mail. Then i'll tell her that she ruined her chances with being just friends with me, and that she should stop bugging me and get a life.
 
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