"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Have a problem guys, here's the situation. Broke up with a girl, actually dumped her and she wasn't that happy about it.

She begged me to take her back, and was really hopeless at the time. But i didn't take her back. Anyway, she wanted to stay in touch.. so i said okey.. and we talked every 2 weeks or something.

Now i hear from people that she i talking behind my back.. and some really fvcked up ****. I have a good reputation, and nobody talks behind my back.

So don't know what i should do!

Already erased her number and email.. I'm sure that i do not want to have anything to do with her. It's just a waste of my Time.

QUESTION
Should i let it go, cause even if she talks.. everyone will forget it soon. OR should i do something about it.. ?

Anyone experienced the same, ADVICE??
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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anyone? ,, just wanna know how some of you deal with these things!
 
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If the talking behind your back is true then she obviously hates you for dumping her. Staying in touch with her just gives her more information about you for her to talk about ..so if i was you i would stop talking to her and when you see her again tell her to stop talking behind your back and get over it
 
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Just let it go, and if anyone brings it up, make known that she's BSing. But if you get all worked up over it, it'll probably encourage her to do it more because she sees it having an effect. And others will assume there's a reason you're getting so agitated, ie., because the rumors are true.

Oh, and yeah, stop talking to her and tell her why.
 
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I think you're already taking the right steps. Ignore her, she's dead to you now. Don't let her know why, she doesn't deserve it. Don't take interest in her sh!ttalking either.

If she manages to contact you again tell her she "burned this bridge", you're over it, but she "needs to get a life" followed by you completely isolating her. That cold harsh reality check almost always works for anyone who plays games like that.

..If your friends are relaying this information just repeat the same to them: you don't care what she says because she's pathetic and she needs to get a life.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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grr said:
I think you're already taking the right steps. Ignore her, she's dead to you now. Don't let her know why, she doesn't deserve it. Don't take interest in her sh!ttalking either.

If she manages to contact you again tell her she "burned this bridge", you're over it, but she "needs to get a life" followed by you completely isolating her. That cold harsh reality check almost always works for anyone who plays games like that.

..If your friends are relaying this information just repeat the same to them: you don't care what she says because she's pathetic and she needs to get a life.
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Good advice grr.

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Thx guys, just wanted to know if i was on the right path!..

The b****ting from her isn't true, okey that she thinks that i am a a*sshole for dumping her i can understand.. but making stories up to look her look good and me bad.. ain't.

'But i don't give a fvck anymore, good advice man.. When i heard that she talking behind my back, the first thing that i did.. was deleting everything from her. Decided for myself that keeping in touch was a bad thing, and learned from it!

Anyway, the question is still: when i see her, should i tell something about the talking behind my back, or just keep cool and ignore her ?..

And if she contacts me, another way.. phone or mail. Then i'll tell her that she ruined her chances with being just friends with me, and that she should stop bugging me and get a life.
 
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