When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
stuka1939 said:Philly fans are the worst and I think have the worst fan reputation in this country.
Oh yeah? I live in the Tri-State are and went to school in South Jersey (which is technically Philly territory). ALot of Philly fans are obnoxious and I have witnessed this at live sports games. New York fans are not far behind.DJ Noble said:A truly ignorant statement. The longer you let mainstream media control your own ideas and opinions, the more clueless you will sound to others.. especially to those on this forum.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Rebound Material said:Alright, I think ive kept silent about it for far too long now...but wtf did u mean by the last part of that sentece? I realize that you're saying guys who are average in looks can get chicks above their range, but you make it sound like the fact that the guy is asian SHOULD have been a burden for him.
Being_the_Don said:What I don't like is all the racism on these boards. What does it matter that the guy is Asian dating a non Asian female? A number of posters on this site go on and on with a yellow fever lust for Asian females even talking about getting what many would call an FOB because she will be more traditional. Then there are the other race based threads dissing someone or other. It seems that a lot of guys here are so insecure about their lack of success with women that they have to put other groups down to make themselves feel better. How does that make such people better DJs? There's a lot of insecurity and a fear of losing certain females to certain other groups which foments the scarcity mentality.
No matter what the race of the man or woman who happen to be dating, wouldn't it be better to learn from what you see and to think about what you can do to improve your own game and get the woman that you want? There should be no place for racial scapegoating, gawking or the like on a forum that is geared toward helping guys learn from each other how to be better with women. This is a site for guys to learn about women. Or is it that men is a term meant for some ie racially and not for others?
Whether you're white, black, Asian, Hispanic, Native American, etc. put it in the simplest of terms: MEN share common attitudes, interests, wants and needs that are BASIC to our gender in that all men are the same. You should know that by the commonality of the various posts here. It is WOMEN who are different from us on the most basic biological terms. Those who can't see this never will and will never become don juans.![]()
This thread is now closed..:crackup:Being_the_Don said:What I don't like is all the racism on these boards. What does it matter that the guy is Asian dating a non Asian female? A number of posters on this site go on and on with a yellow fever lust for Asian females even talking about getting what many would call an FOB because she will be more traditional. Then there are the other race based threads dissing someone or other. It seems that a lot of guys here are so insecure about their lack of success with women that they have to put other groups down to make themselves feel better. How does that make such people better DJs? There's a lot of insecurity and a fear of losing certain females to certain other groups which foments the scarcity mentality.
No matter what the race of the man or woman who happen to be dating, wouldn't it be better to learn from what you see and to think about what you can do to improve your own game and get the woman that you want? There should be no place for racial scapegoating, gawking or the like on a forum that is geared toward helping guys learn from each other how to be better with women. This is a site for guys to learn about women. Or is it that men is a term meant for some ie racially and not for others?
Whether you're white, black, Asian, Hispanic, Native American, etc. put it in the simplest of terms: MEN share common attitudes, interests, wants and needs that are BASIC to our gender in that all men are the same. You should know that by the commonality of the various posts here. It is WOMEN who are different from us on the most basic biological terms. Those who can't see this never will and will never become don juans.![]()
This isn't the first time I've seen guys hate.Poonani Maker said:I think that, women'll do this so as to BROADCAST their availability, and beckon a guy to come and TAKE her away from him. Just look at Jake Gyllenhaal and Reese Witherspoon. He ain't got no business being with her. Reese is broadcasting her availability. She'll NEVER marry him.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.