That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
stuka1939 said:Philly fans are the worst and I think have the worst fan reputation in this country.
Oh yeah? I live in the Tri-State are and went to school in South Jersey (which is technically Philly territory). ALot of Philly fans are obnoxious and I have witnessed this at live sports games. New York fans are not far behind.DJ Noble said:A truly ignorant statement. The longer you let mainstream media control your own ideas and opinions, the more clueless you will sound to others.. especially to those on this forum.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Rebound Material said:Alright, I think ive kept silent about it for far too long now...but wtf did u mean by the last part of that sentece? I realize that you're saying guys who are average in looks can get chicks above their range, but you make it sound like the fact that the guy is asian SHOULD have been a burden for him.
Being_the_Don said:What I don't like is all the racism on these boards. What does it matter that the guy is Asian dating a non Asian female? A number of posters on this site go on and on with a yellow fever lust for Asian females even talking about getting what many would call an FOB because she will be more traditional. Then there are the other race based threads dissing someone or other. It seems that a lot of guys here are so insecure about their lack of success with women that they have to put other groups down to make themselves feel better. How does that make such people better DJs? There's a lot of insecurity and a fear of losing certain females to certain other groups which foments the scarcity mentality.
No matter what the race of the man or woman who happen to be dating, wouldn't it be better to learn from what you see and to think about what you can do to improve your own game and get the woman that you want? There should be no place for racial scapegoating, gawking or the like on a forum that is geared toward helping guys learn from each other how to be better with women. This is a site for guys to learn about women. Or is it that men is a term meant for some ie racially and not for others?
Whether you're white, black, Asian, Hispanic, Native American, etc. put it in the simplest of terms: MEN share common attitudes, interests, wants and needs that are BASIC to our gender in that all men are the same. You should know that by the commonality of the various posts here. It is WOMEN who are different from us on the most basic biological terms. Those who can't see this never will and will never become don juans.![]()
This thread is now closed..:crackup:Being_the_Don said:What I don't like is all the racism on these boards. What does it matter that the guy is Asian dating a non Asian female? A number of posters on this site go on and on with a yellow fever lust for Asian females even talking about getting what many would call an FOB because she will be more traditional. Then there are the other race based threads dissing someone or other. It seems that a lot of guys here are so insecure about their lack of success with women that they have to put other groups down to make themselves feel better. How does that make such people better DJs? There's a lot of insecurity and a fear of losing certain females to certain other groups which foments the scarcity mentality.
No matter what the race of the man or woman who happen to be dating, wouldn't it be better to learn from what you see and to think about what you can do to improve your own game and get the woman that you want? There should be no place for racial scapegoating, gawking or the like on a forum that is geared toward helping guys learn from each other how to be better with women. This is a site for guys to learn about women. Or is it that men is a term meant for some ie racially and not for others?
Whether you're white, black, Asian, Hispanic, Native American, etc. put it in the simplest of terms: MEN share common attitudes, interests, wants and needs that are BASIC to our gender in that all men are the same. You should know that by the commonality of the various posts here. It is WOMEN who are different from us on the most basic biological terms. Those who can't see this never will and will never become don juans.![]()
This isn't the first time I've seen guys hate.Poonani Maker said:I think that, women'll do this so as to BROADCAST their availability, and beckon a guy to come and TAKE her away from him. Just look at Jake Gyllenhaal and Reese Witherspoon. He ain't got no business being with her. Reese is broadcasting her availability. She'll NEVER marry him.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.