I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
stuka1939 said:Philly fans are the worst and I think have the worst fan reputation in this country.
Oh yeah? I live in the Tri-State are and went to school in South Jersey (which is technically Philly territory). ALot of Philly fans are obnoxious and I have witnessed this at live sports games. New York fans are not far behind.DJ Noble said:A truly ignorant statement. The longer you let mainstream media control your own ideas and opinions, the more clueless you will sound to others.. especially to those on this forum.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Rebound Material said:Alright, I think ive kept silent about it for far too long now...but wtf did u mean by the last part of that sentece? I realize that you're saying guys who are average in looks can get chicks above their range, but you make it sound like the fact that the guy is asian SHOULD have been a burden for him.
Being_the_Don said:What I don't like is all the racism on these boards. What does it matter that the guy is Asian dating a non Asian female? A number of posters on this site go on and on with a yellow fever lust for Asian females even talking about getting what many would call an FOB because she will be more traditional. Then there are the other race based threads dissing someone or other. It seems that a lot of guys here are so insecure about their lack of success with women that they have to put other groups down to make themselves feel better. How does that make such people better DJs? There's a lot of insecurity and a fear of losing certain females to certain other groups which foments the scarcity mentality.
No matter what the race of the man or woman who happen to be dating, wouldn't it be better to learn from what you see and to think about what you can do to improve your own game and get the woman that you want? There should be no place for racial scapegoating, gawking or the like on a forum that is geared toward helping guys learn from each other how to be better with women. This is a site for guys to learn about women. Or is it that men is a term meant for some ie racially and not for others?
Whether you're white, black, Asian, Hispanic, Native American, etc. put it in the simplest of terms: MEN share common attitudes, interests, wants and needs that are BASIC to our gender in that all men are the same. You should know that by the commonality of the various posts here. It is WOMEN who are different from us on the most basic biological terms. Those who can't see this never will and will never become don juans.![]()
This thread is now closed..:crackup:Being_the_Don said:What I don't like is all the racism on these boards. What does it matter that the guy is Asian dating a non Asian female? A number of posters on this site go on and on with a yellow fever lust for Asian females even talking about getting what many would call an FOB because she will be more traditional. Then there are the other race based threads dissing someone or other. It seems that a lot of guys here are so insecure about their lack of success with women that they have to put other groups down to make themselves feel better. How does that make such people better DJs? There's a lot of insecurity and a fear of losing certain females to certain other groups which foments the scarcity mentality.
No matter what the race of the man or woman who happen to be dating, wouldn't it be better to learn from what you see and to think about what you can do to improve your own game and get the woman that you want? There should be no place for racial scapegoating, gawking or the like on a forum that is geared toward helping guys learn from each other how to be better with women. This is a site for guys to learn about women. Or is it that men is a term meant for some ie racially and not for others?
Whether you're white, black, Asian, Hispanic, Native American, etc. put it in the simplest of terms: MEN share common attitudes, interests, wants and needs that are BASIC to our gender in that all men are the same. You should know that by the commonality of the various posts here. It is WOMEN who are different from us on the most basic biological terms. Those who can't see this never will and will never become don juans.![]()
This isn't the first time I've seen guys hate.Poonani Maker said:I think that, women'll do this so as to BROADCAST their availability, and beckon a guy to come and TAKE her away from him. Just look at Jake Gyllenhaal and Reese Witherspoon. He ain't got no business being with her. Reese is broadcasting her availability. She'll NEVER marry him.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.