You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
stuka1939 said:Philly fans are the worst and I think have the worst fan reputation in this country.
Oh yeah? I live in the Tri-State are and went to school in South Jersey (which is technically Philly territory). ALot of Philly fans are obnoxious and I have witnessed this at live sports games. New York fans are not far behind.DJ Noble said:A truly ignorant statement. The longer you let mainstream media control your own ideas and opinions, the more clueless you will sound to others.. especially to those on this forum.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Rebound Material said:Alright, I think ive kept silent about it for far too long now...but wtf did u mean by the last part of that sentece? I realize that you're saying guys who are average in looks can get chicks above their range, but you make it sound like the fact that the guy is asian SHOULD have been a burden for him.
Being_the_Don said:What I don't like is all the racism on these boards. What does it matter that the guy is Asian dating a non Asian female? A number of posters on this site go on and on with a yellow fever lust for Asian females even talking about getting what many would call an FOB because she will be more traditional. Then there are the other race based threads dissing someone or other. It seems that a lot of guys here are so insecure about their lack of success with women that they have to put other groups down to make themselves feel better. How does that make such people better DJs? There's a lot of insecurity and a fear of losing certain females to certain other groups which foments the scarcity mentality.
No matter what the race of the man or woman who happen to be dating, wouldn't it be better to learn from what you see and to think about what you can do to improve your own game and get the woman that you want? There should be no place for racial scapegoating, gawking or the like on a forum that is geared toward helping guys learn from each other how to be better with women. This is a site for guys to learn about women. Or is it that men is a term meant for some ie racially and not for others?
Whether you're white, black, Asian, Hispanic, Native American, etc. put it in the simplest of terms: MEN share common attitudes, interests, wants and needs that are BASIC to our gender in that all men are the same. You should know that by the commonality of the various posts here. It is WOMEN who are different from us on the most basic biological terms. Those who can't see this never will and will never become don juans.![]()
This thread is now closed..:crackup:Being_the_Don said:What I don't like is all the racism on these boards. What does it matter that the guy is Asian dating a non Asian female? A number of posters on this site go on and on with a yellow fever lust for Asian females even talking about getting what many would call an FOB because she will be more traditional. Then there are the other race based threads dissing someone or other. It seems that a lot of guys here are so insecure about their lack of success with women that they have to put other groups down to make themselves feel better. How does that make such people better DJs? There's a lot of insecurity and a fear of losing certain females to certain other groups which foments the scarcity mentality.
No matter what the race of the man or woman who happen to be dating, wouldn't it be better to learn from what you see and to think about what you can do to improve your own game and get the woman that you want? There should be no place for racial scapegoating, gawking or the like on a forum that is geared toward helping guys learn from each other how to be better with women. This is a site for guys to learn about women. Or is it that men is a term meant for some ie racially and not for others?
Whether you're white, black, Asian, Hispanic, Native American, etc. put it in the simplest of terms: MEN share common attitudes, interests, wants and needs that are BASIC to our gender in that all men are the same. You should know that by the commonality of the various posts here. It is WOMEN who are different from us on the most basic biological terms. Those who can't see this never will and will never become don juans.![]()
This isn't the first time I've seen guys hate.Poonani Maker said:I think that, women'll do this so as to BROADCAST their availability, and beckon a guy to come and TAKE her away from him. Just look at Jake Gyllenhaal and Reese Witherspoon. He ain't got no business being with her. Reese is broadcasting her availability. She'll NEVER marry him.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.