"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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taking it to the next level

BES

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ok i have been dating some girls but i have found a girl that I dig a lot.

how do i put it into the next level?
should i call her often (everyday)on how she is doing( to show i am interested)? or just call her to set up a second date? (i am planning to set up a date just for kino like ice skating or bowling)

need advice please


PS: update on recent my post ....(first time meeting her) I looked down to her feet to face and say some compliments. the end of the day we hug and she agreed to hang out again.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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-HPNOTIQ-

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Read Grey Fox's thread on the First Date and Second Date guides

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=32104&highlight=second+date+guide

Hell...anything by Grey Fox are good reads and have very good insight.

My advice to you. Don't over analyze the situation. From the little you have wrote, it is obvious that this chick is digging you. Way to go bro!!! But, don't muttle it up with snares, traps, patterns and all sorts of mumbo jumbo.

Keep it basic. Have fun and enjoy yourself Smile, stay ****/funny...and have fun.

OH YEAH..HAVE FUN.

This stuff isn't Linear algebra! Its dating! hahaha..good luck bro.
 

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thanks that was a great guide!

i have a question about holding hands kino...if we are side by side walking and i see a sign putting her hands down should i go for holding hands?
should i say something to her?

Update second date:(really going for kino)
my friends are going bowling and i invited her ? or should i set up another date for just two of us.
 

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Originally posted by BES
Update second date:(really going for kino)
my friends are going bowling and i invited her ? or should i set up another date for just two of us.
Avoid group dates!

Set up a date just for you two. It`s better.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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