"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Taking her to a hotel? Would like to hear opinions from the ladies.

Alle_Gory

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So I'm seeing a new girl now. Actually she used to be a friend of mine. So much for friendzones. We need to get around to fvcking while she's still running hot... and I've got other girls I'm chasing too. So I need to make this easy.

Only problem is that I still live with my folks (student), and so does she and they're ALWAYS home. Is the hotel a decent idea? What other options do I have? Outside is not an option since I'm in Canada, and there's no way in hell she's messing up my car.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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WaterTiger

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Hotels are fine, but will get expensive. (Also, meeting at cheap hotels for a hook-up is SO 1970)

Do you have a sympathetic friend? (Give him money for a movie, and you get his house for 2 hours?)
 

Cinamon

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The best thing about a hotel is that you have all that space to try out a number of positions and scenarios. Is it possible in the workplace or maybe even in one of the lecture theatres after class?

I guess part of it comes down to how the both of you would feel doing it in public places, like parks etc. I did it in my early twenties and it werent a big deal, dont know if i would do that again now though. Sometimes the thrill of getting caught is fun. How much of a prude is this girl?
 

shaunuk

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If she's adventurous and you don't want to do it outside...what I'd do is take her to the basement of my uni department's building, or the toilets in that building...not all that risky.

In fact, I wouldn't be worrying about this at all because I'd just do it in my car...I'd rather get a fvck and worry about any mess later (how much mess will there really be btw? Not much in my experience...and if you really care, put down a towel or blanket)
 

Cinamon

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I'm going to be working late again today, so have invtied a friend round for a coffee later, but i'm guessing he is going to be getting a bit more than a coffee if i have something to do with it ;)

I think Shaun is right, balnket/towels are good. There was this one guy i did who would carry a duver in the back of his van for these kind of encounters under the excuse he used it to wrap his musical equipment in.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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