"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Taking her to a hotel? Would like to hear opinions from the ladies.

Alle_Gory

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So I'm seeing a new girl now. Actually she used to be a friend of mine. So much for friendzones. We need to get around to fvcking while she's still running hot... and I've got other girls I'm chasing too. So I need to make this easy.

Only problem is that I still live with my folks (student), and so does she and they're ALWAYS home. Is the hotel a decent idea? What other options do I have? Outside is not an option since I'm in Canada, and there's no way in hell she's messing up my car.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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WaterTiger

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Hotels are fine, but will get expensive. (Also, meeting at cheap hotels for a hook-up is SO 1970)

Do you have a sympathetic friend? (Give him money for a movie, and you get his house for 2 hours?)
 

Cinamon

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The best thing about a hotel is that you have all that space to try out a number of positions and scenarios. Is it possible in the workplace or maybe even in one of the lecture theatres after class?

I guess part of it comes down to how the both of you would feel doing it in public places, like parks etc. I did it in my early twenties and it werent a big deal, dont know if i would do that again now though. Sometimes the thrill of getting caught is fun. How much of a prude is this girl?
 

shaunuk

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If she's adventurous and you don't want to do it outside...what I'd do is take her to the basement of my uni department's building, or the toilets in that building...not all that risky.

In fact, I wouldn't be worrying about this at all because I'd just do it in my car...I'd rather get a fvck and worry about any mess later (how much mess will there really be btw? Not much in my experience...and if you really care, put down a towel or blanket)
 

Cinamon

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I'm going to be working late again today, so have invtied a friend round for a coffee later, but i'm guessing he is going to be getting a bit more than a coffee if i have something to do with it ;)

I think Shaun is right, balnket/towels are good. There was this one guy i did who would carry a duver in the back of his van for these kind of encounters under the excuse he used it to wrap his musical equipment in.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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