I took a girl out i met outside to dinner and a club with her friend a couple weeks ago. Did some hugging, dancing, just in each other's arms. I end up glancing at her facebook and finds out she has a boyfriend. I havent taken her out since the first time i took her out but i havent let her know that i know she has a boyfriend. i still have her number. Should i bring it up and how? Im 25, she's 20. i dont wanna let her know i saw her facebook
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
take chick out on date, later finds out...
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Go ghost and seem uninterested. She has a boyfriend anyway so she's out of bounds. By not mentioning you know and just not really seeming to care will make her feel like you're superior. Well maybe not superior but she will see you as a lot cooler than saying you stalked her profile and see she has a boyfriend.
Most chicks I know don't list their status at all, I've only seen one who ever used "It's Complicated" either. I did have one who was going out of her way to get my attention but when I took a look her profile mentioned that she was married so I stopped responding to it (I don't mess with married chicks, period.) Interestingly a while later that status vanished but I wasn't going to waste any more time on her anyway. I did see her wearing a ring or two later on but that doesn't mean much, there are quite a number of single women out there who wear a ring on the wedding finger either because they want to ward off guys or because they're ignorant and don't realize the message they're sending until they complain about never getting asked out and someone points out why.Tiguere said:
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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She'll bring him up and keep him around and talk about him a lot if she's not attracted to you.
Go for the lay and spin more plates. That's the best thing that is for you. So ordered.
Case closed.
Go for the lay and spin more plates. That's the best thing that is for you. So ordered.
Case closed.