I took a girl out i met outside to dinner and a club with her friend a couple weeks ago. Did some hugging, dancing, just in each other's arms. I end up glancing at her facebook and finds out she has a boyfriend. I havent taken her out since the first time i took her out but i havent let her know that i know she has a boyfriend. i still have her number. Should i bring it up and how? Im 25, she's 20. i dont wanna let her know i saw her facebook
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
take chick out on date, later finds out...
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Go ghost and seem uninterested. She has a boyfriend anyway so she's out of bounds. By not mentioning you know and just not really seeming to care will make her feel like you're superior. Well maybe not superior but she will see you as a lot cooler than saying you stalked her profile and see she has a boyfriend.
Most chicks I know don't list their status at all, I've only seen one who ever used "It's Complicated" either. I did have one who was going out of her way to get my attention but when I took a look her profile mentioned that she was married so I stopped responding to it (I don't mess with married chicks, period.) Interestingly a while later that status vanished but I wasn't going to waste any more time on her anyway. I did see her wearing a ring or two later on but that doesn't mean much, there are quite a number of single women out there who wear a ring on the wedding finger either because they want to ward off guys or because they're ignorant and don't realize the message they're sending until they complain about never getting asked out and someone points out why.Tiguere said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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She'll bring him up and keep him around and talk about him a lot if she's not attracted to you.
Go for the lay and spin more plates. That's the best thing that is for you. So ordered.
Case closed.
Go for the lay and spin more plates. That's the best thing that is for you. So ordered.
Case closed.