"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Swimming/first date help ASAP

seymour butts

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So my apartment building has a pool/hot tub/sauna. Is it creepy to ask a girl to go swimming on a first date? I asked a friendgirl of mine and she said it was but to be honest she is kind of a prude.

Honestly my intention is not even to check her out although I'm sure that's how it would seem. I just find swimming to be a really fun social activity and it puts me in a great state of mind for these types of things based on past experiences.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ecko280

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do what you want to do. If the girl is interested in you, she will join you.
 

irocknike23

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she thinks you want to see her booty


just ask her out on a normal date and when you guys get closer ask to go swimming
 

ENIGMA16

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Depends entirely on your history with her and her level of attraction with you, which we cannot gauge from this forum. You need to decide for yourself. My bet, though, is that if you're questioning it then it probably wouldn't be a good idea.
 

seymour butts

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Perhaps creepy wasn't the right word. I was just hesitant to ask because of the same reasons you said not to mention the hot tub.

I decided to ask anyway and she was totally into it. Cheers!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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