"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Swimming/first date help ASAP

seymour butts

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So my apartment building has a pool/hot tub/sauna. Is it creepy to ask a girl to go swimming on a first date? I asked a friendgirl of mine and she said it was but to be honest she is kind of a prude.

Honestly my intention is not even to check her out although I'm sure that's how it would seem. I just find swimming to be a really fun social activity and it puts me in a great state of mind for these types of things based on past experiences.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ecko280

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do what you want to do. If the girl is interested in you, she will join you.
 

irocknike23

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she thinks you want to see her booty


just ask her out on a normal date and when you guys get closer ask to go swimming
 

ENIGMA16

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Depends entirely on your history with her and her level of attraction with you, which we cannot gauge from this forum. You need to decide for yourself. My bet, though, is that if you're questioning it then it probably wouldn't be a good idea.
 

seymour butts

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Perhaps creepy wasn't the right word. I was just hesitant to ask because of the same reasons you said not to mention the hot tub.

I decided to ask anyway and she was totally into it. Cheers!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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