jt the azn
Don Juan
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we need avatars
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I so concur with that. :cheer:jt the azn said:we need avatars
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Maxtro said:VU did you know that this board has 6 choices for color scheme and format?
But if you like it the way it is you don't have to do anything.
Haha, I was about to make another "How To" picture post...Victory Unlimited said::crackup: Yo Maxtro,
No, I actually never paid attention to that...I guess it's because I DID like it the way it is. I guess the "good soldiers" here at SoSuave headquarters GOT IT RIGHT (for me, at least) the FIRST time. lol
Thanks, dude.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Don't worry by tomorrow, I am sure there is going to be one less member on sosuave, I won't tell you who it is but you know him very well.magnet7 said:Better quality control?
Yeah, that's true, but my 4 other alternate usernames I access from different computers with different IPsDJDamage said:Don't worry by tomorrow, I am sure there is going to be one less member, I won't tell you who it is but you know him very well.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
So, even though now I can access threads "from the beginning", when it comes to my own post history, I can only go back 500 posts it seems. Is that accurate?TheVirtualMind said:Haha, I was about to make another "How To" picture post...
For those interested, the "Browner" scheme is the old board color.
Yeah. Thread that haven't been replied to by a certain amount of time are deleted to same room. The only places stuff isn't deleted from is Tips and the Archives.reset said:So, even though now I can access threads "from the beginning", when it comes to my own post history, I can only go back 500 posts it seems. Is that accurate?
instead of asterisks, there could be a filter that changes the words to harmless words. They have this on the something awful forums and its a lot easier on the eyes to see "gently caress" rather than "fvck".HandyAndy said:we should be allowed to say **** and ***** and **** and ******* and ****
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.