jt the azn
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I so concur with that. :cheer:jt the azn said:we need avatars
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Maxtro said:VU did you know that this board has 6 choices for color scheme and format?
But if you like it the way it is you don't have to do anything.
Haha, I was about to make another "How To" picture post...Victory Unlimited said::crackup: Yo Maxtro,
No, I actually never paid attention to that...I guess it's because I DID like it the way it is. I guess the "good soldiers" here at SoSuave headquarters GOT IT RIGHT (for me, at least) the FIRST time. lol
Thanks, dude.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Don't worry by tomorrow, I am sure there is going to be one less member on sosuave, I won't tell you who it is but you know him very well.magnet7 said:Better quality control?
Yeah, that's true, but my 4 other alternate usernames I access from different computers with different IPsDJDamage said:Don't worry by tomorrow, I am sure there is going to be one less member, I won't tell you who it is but you know him very well.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
So, even though now I can access threads "from the beginning", when it comes to my own post history, I can only go back 500 posts it seems. Is that accurate?TheVirtualMind said:Haha, I was about to make another "How To" picture post...
For those interested, the "Browner" scheme is the old board color.
Yeah. Thread that haven't been replied to by a certain amount of time are deleted to same room. The only places stuff isn't deleted from is Tips and the Archives.reset said:So, even though now I can access threads "from the beginning", when it comes to my own post history, I can only go back 500 posts it seems. Is that accurate?
instead of asterisks, there could be a filter that changes the words to harmless words. They have this on the something awful forums and its a lot easier on the eyes to see "gently caress" rather than "fvck".HandyAndy said:we should be allowed to say **** and ***** and **** and ******* and ****
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.