jt the azn
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we need avatars
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I so concur with that. :cheer:jt the azn said:we need avatars
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Maxtro said:VU did you know that this board has 6 choices for color scheme and format?
But if you like it the way it is you don't have to do anything.
Haha, I was about to make another "How To" picture post...Victory Unlimited said::crackup: Yo Maxtro,
No, I actually never paid attention to that...I guess it's because I DID like it the way it is. I guess the "good soldiers" here at SoSuave headquarters GOT IT RIGHT (for me, at least) the FIRST time. lol
Thanks, dude.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Don't worry by tomorrow, I am sure there is going to be one less member on sosuave, I won't tell you who it is but you know him very well.magnet7 said:Better quality control?
Yeah, that's true, but my 4 other alternate usernames I access from different computers with different IPsDJDamage said:Don't worry by tomorrow, I am sure there is going to be one less member, I won't tell you who it is but you know him very well.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
So, even though now I can access threads "from the beginning", when it comes to my own post history, I can only go back 500 posts it seems. Is that accurate?TheVirtualMind said:Haha, I was about to make another "How To" picture post...
For those interested, the "Browner" scheme is the old board color.
Yeah. Thread that haven't been replied to by a certain amount of time are deleted to same room. The only places stuff isn't deleted from is Tips and the Archives.reset said:So, even though now I can access threads "from the beginning", when it comes to my own post history, I can only go back 500 posts it seems. Is that accurate?
instead of asterisks, there could be a filter that changes the words to harmless words. They have this on the something awful forums and its a lot easier on the eyes to see "gently caress" rather than "fvck".HandyAndy said:we should be allowed to say **** and ***** and **** and ******* and ****
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.