jt the azn
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we need avatars
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
meitenesrigas
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I so concur with that. :cheer:jt the azn said:
I kind of like how little this board changes. I started posting here in '02 (under a different user name. McKindley, for anyone who cares. I got a new user name when I realized I was no longer an AFC and all those old posts were pretty AFC), and there's only been one huge overhaul in that time that I can remember. It used to have a picture of a cute girl at the top somewhere from what I remember.
Avatars are those things where you put up a picture under your name, right? If so, I'm not for it. I like everyone's faceless silly names. Something about seeing someone's silly online handle and then a picture of them (or worse, a picture of a mystical dragon or something that somehow is related to their personality) turns me off. If you're picture is of anything Lord of the Rings related I can't take your advice seriously, even if it's really good advice.
I do wish there was some sort of thing under a person's name (I guess this is the rep thing that is talked of?) that would let me know what the quality of the poster's advice is. A way to vote for good posters and against bad posters would be cool. Maybe when a mod or a well respected poster votes for your advice it counts more (like that guy who's name is the name of a guy from one of those giant Ayn Rand novels. His vote should count double because his advice is right on most of the time). Right now when I see someone's name at best I can remember seeing it before, but seldom can I remember if they said something I liked that made me remember the name, or something really stupid.
Avatars are those things where you put up a picture under your name, right? If so, I'm not for it. I like everyone's faceless silly names. Something about seeing someone's silly online handle and then a picture of them (or worse, a picture of a mystical dragon or something that somehow is related to their personality) turns me off. If you're picture is of anything Lord of the Rings related I can't take your advice seriously, even if it's really good advice.
I do wish there was some sort of thing under a person's name (I guess this is the rep thing that is talked of?) that would let me know what the quality of the poster's advice is. A way to vote for good posters and against bad posters would be cool. Maybe when a mod or a well respected poster votes for your advice it counts more (like that guy who's name is the name of a guy from one of those giant Ayn Rand novels. His vote should count double because his advice is right on most of the time). Right now when I see someone's name at best I can remember seeing it before, but seldom can I remember if they said something I liked that made me remember the name, or something really stupid.
Last Man Standing
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Avatars are annoying and clutter the board!! Do not clutter the board!
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Another idea I just had was having a log sub-forum
A place for logs. I think it's great for people to keep public logs of their progress but not so great for them to be scattered everywhere.
I edited my original post to add in the idea.
A place for logs. I think it's great for people to keep public logs of their progress but not so great for them to be scattered everywhere.
I edited my original post to add in the idea.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Victory Unlimited
Master Don Juan
Yo Moderators,
WHATEVER you do, please do not change "the look" of the board by making things smaller, or by making the boxes (or whatever) a different color.
One of the COSMETIC things I appreciate the most about this place is how viewer friendly, and easily navigated that this Forum is. All you have to do is look at some other sites, and you will see how darkly-colored the screens are, how annoying the navigation is, and how unnecessarily small some of the fonts are.
Y'all ASKED, so I'm tellin' ya'...lol.
Peace...SUNday.
WHATEVER you do, please do not change "the look" of the board by making things smaller, or by making the boxes (or whatever) a different color.
One of the COSMETIC things I appreciate the most about this place is how viewer friendly, and easily navigated that this Forum is. All you have to do is look at some other sites, and you will see how darkly-colored the screens are, how annoying the navigation is, and how unnecessarily small some of the fonts are.
Y'all ASKED, so I'm tellin' ya'...lol.
Peace...SUNday.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
VU did you know that this board has 6 choices for color scheme and format?
The bottom left corner of each page has a drop box where you can pick your theme. I'm currently using PowerBlue. So uh "the look" can be changed
But if you like it the way it is you don't have to do anything.
The bottom left corner of each page has a drop box where you can pick your theme. I'm currently using PowerBlue. So uh "the look" can be changed
But if you like it the way it is you don't have to do anything.
Victory Unlimited
Master Don Juan
Maxtro said:VU did you know that this board has 6 choices for color scheme and format?
:crackup: Yo Maxtro,
No, I actually never paid attention to that...I guess it's because I DID like it the way it is. I guess the "good soldiers" here at SoSuave headquarters GOT IT RIGHT (for me, at least) the FIRST time. lol
Thanks, dude.
TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
Haha, I was about to make another "How To" picture post...Victory Unlimited said:
For those interested, the "Browner" scheme is the old board color.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Those words are censored because the immature people would constantly use them making this place trash. If I open up a new thread and see "**** and then she ****" I immediately close it because I know there is nothing of value.
Supremo
Senior Don Juan
There should be a forum of only Field Reports, possibly split up into HS and 18+.
Also, it'd be cool to have a forum that discussed actual seduction methods (MM, GWM, etc.)
Something that'd be nice would be to split up the existing forums into categories, eg. Health and Fitness having subforums like "workout logs", "health related questions", "general health tips", "workout routines", "diets", etc.
Just my 2 cents.
Also, it'd be cool to have a forum that discussed actual seduction methods (MM, GWM, etc.)
Something that'd be nice would be to split up the existing forums into categories, eg. Health and Fitness having subforums like "workout logs", "health related questions", "general health tips", "workout routines", "diets", etc.
Just my 2 cents.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
Yeah. Thread that haven't been replied to by a certain amount of time are deleted to same room. The only places stuff isn't deleted from is Tips and the Archives.reset said:
meitenesrigas
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Eliminate the Mature and High School Forum. The Mature Forum is depressing. The High School Forum is disturbing. Anybody can be anything on the Net. I suspect that at least 50% of those in the Mature Forum are in High School and 50% in the High School Forum have more hair on their back than on their heads. Add a travel forum.
zubs
Don Juan
instead of asterisks, there could be a filter that changes the words to harmless words. They have this on the something awful forums and its a lot easier on the eyes to see "gently caress" rather than "fvck".HandyAndy said:
also, i strongly support a rating or rep system. otherwise, how can you have any idea of the validity of someones advice?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.