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So I've read a lot of toxic stuff on this forum about how the game ends at 30 and how after the age of 30, it is impossible to meet a lot of new women. I think that we have whined enough and even if it is true, real men find solutions to problems rather than just whine about them. Here is what I feel like is almost mandatory or very helpful if you want to sleep with a lot of different women after the age of 30 who happen to not be hideous. Please add to the list.

1. Moving to a major world class city, very mandatory.

I think that in American the only cities that really qualify for this are Chicago, NYC, and Miami. To a degree LA can too but ratios there really suck. I've been to Charleston and Nashville, had great luck there but it is still the south. You move to a London, NYC, Miami, Chicago, or any major world class city. The suburbs are to be avoided and so are areas of the country where people get married by 30 (usually small towns, suburbs, conservative areas, and smaller cities).

Save me the morally self-righteous right wing BS, I am not here to talk politics and see you cry about liberals, I am here to give actionable advice on how to get your d1ck into a lot of different women after the age of 30. Don't like it? Go start a marriage thread or some crap.

2. Get involved with hedonistic scenes (partying, loose morals, etc.)

If you have the free time and money? Get involved in nightlife. If you did your 20s well, did not screw around, focused on making money, and have change to spare to where your career is not that important? Get a job as a bartender, club promoter, or anything to do with working in nightlife. My boy @cola can offer some advice here as well but nightlife is one of many avenues. Try to get involved in model photography and even make friends who work in porn, try to get involved in scenes where sex is easy.

3. Travel to vacation spots in the summer.

Mikonos in Greece is a good example but I am sure my boy @Who Dares Win can provide good vacation spots as well. Go where people are going to get laid and party hard.

4. Look good.

Hard to keep a nice body after 30 but look good, it will take you off the provider list.

I will add more to it, hoping others can add to it too!
 

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Yeah.. where did you hear this? I turned 30 in December, and so far I'm loving it. No shortage of woman.. I was gonna write up a lay report tonight about last weekend actually, but I'm too lazy.
I'm 33 and I feel like living in the land of plenty. Never had that much options without putting in any effort.
 

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You obviously never browsed the threads in other parts of this forum or read about dudes whining of how hard it is to meet women after college.
I would question exactly what they are doing because they are doing something seriously wrong.
 

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I think it's more that you need to change tactics with older gals. Gals generally past 32 change their thought process on a lot of things. There's a big difference on how a 28yo thinks/acts vs 32+yo's. From my experience and others, ~32 seems to be the turning point for a lot of gals. By then, they have a different outlook in life, have grown up some, have been pumped and dumped a lot, have outgrown the hookup scene(so they say, lol). Also, some are out on a mission more than ever to find a serious ltr or Mr. Right because their biological clock is ticking and/or they wanna fullfill their Disney Dream of getting married or having that white picket fence with someone.
Expect to not talk about sex so much before it has actually happens, expect more LMR, expect to push/pull more, expect to be more engaging and upping your text/convo skills, expect to work harder initially to get them but less to keep them(opposite of younger gals), expect to have sex on the second or third date but not first, expect to play the long game with some, expect to be judged on the things you have or have accomplished, expect more communication/time management, etc. I'm obviously generalizing heavily here and you may or may not come across these scenarios with all gals.
 

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You obviously never browsed the threads in other parts of this forum or read about dudes whining of how hard it is to meet women after college.
I wouldn't consider that whining. Anyone who has been single at a time in their college vs. a time single at some point post college would make that observation. A lot of it depends on the city/metro area where someone lives post college. If a metro area has more than 1 million in population (essentially the top 50), it's usually a good bet that you'll be able to find some options. During the last 15 years, I've lived in two Top 20 metro areas. I've needed to put more effort in during the times I've needed to find new prospects. College is loaded with the single population. Post college, a person needs to go out of their way more to find the populations. Someone might need to take the initiative to join co-ed sports leagues, go to various bars, go to fitness classes, linger around the grocery store, and go to a variety of events, many of which are complete bullshyt. It's either that or fight it out on the swipe apps.
 

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I know guys who are close to forty who pull on the regular. They get some girls who are under 20 and are hot. seen them in the club dancing with them and the girl is laughing having a great time and they go back to theirs.

These guys are party guys and drink alot and do drugs. They ain't rich (they might own a house, some don't though) and live in a small region population wise of 100,000 people. They also have a presence about them which you just wanna look at them. Some girls have this presence as well. Very funny dudes as well without even speaking. They also get alot of people not liking them.

The girls they get are proper hoes i reckon. Seen them stream one of the pulls on facebook and one of the girls used to work with me. We used to talk quite alot and she was always looking at me.

They ain't banging every girl that's for sure. Even one girl I got into bed with didn't like one of these dudes because she thought he's full of himself when he's a fuking loser.

Confidence does enable you to get girls and all these guys despite being over 30 and some approaching 50 and slayers.
 

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Yeah I never brought into the college hype at all, it is all a mirage IMO. Most colleges here in the US are very strict on social circle game and the better looking women all go for the rich guy in a fraternity or a student athlete. Even then, you are strictly held down to how many women you can get with since word spreads fast and people talk. There is a reason why false rape accusations commonly happen on college campuses which are usually closed environments.

College is strictly social circle game if you do it right, anyone else claiming differently is lying or went to a commuter campus in a huge city. College game is appearances, social status, and being a part of the right group which for most men is not possible in some colleges if you are not coming from wealth or playing a sport. Stop parading college out to be a paradise, it is not.

So yes, I consider it whining whenever someone says college is this magical paradise, it is far far far from it. I feel like the college experience is by far the most overrated experience out there when it comes to meeting women and getting around. The fact that masculine men priding themselves on self-improvement hype it up so much is just sickening to me tbh.
 

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So I've read a lot of toxic stuff on this forum about how the game ends at 30 and how after the age of 30, it is impossible to meet a lot of new women. I think that we have whined enough and even if it is true, real men find solutions to problems rather than just whine about them. Here is what I feel like is almost mandatory or very helpful if you want to sleep with a lot of different women after the age of 30 who happen to not be hideous. Please add to the list.

1. Moving to a major world class city, very mandatory.

I think that in American the only cities that really qualify for this are Chicago, NYC, and Miami. To a degree LA can too but ratios there really suck. I've been to Charleston and Nashville, had great luck there but it is still the south. You move to a London, NYC, Miami, Chicago, or any major world class city. The suburbs are to be avoided and so are areas of the country where people get married by 30 (usually small towns, suburbs, conservative areas, and smaller cities).

Save me the morally self-righteous right wing BS, I am not here to talk politics and see you cry about liberals, I am here to give actionable advice on how to get your d1ck into a lot of different women after the age of 30. Don't like it? Go start a marriage thread or some crap.

2. Get involved with hedonistic scenes (partying, loose morals, etc.)

If you have the free time and money? Get involved in nightlife. If you did your 20s well, did not screw around, focused on making money, and have change to spare to where your career is not that important? Get a job as a bartender, club promoter, or anything to do with working in nightlife. My boy @cola can offer some advice here as well but nightlife is one of many avenues. Try to get involved in model photography and even make friends who work in porn, try to get involved in scenes where sex is easy.

3. Travel to vacation spots in the summer.

Mikonos in Greece is a good example but I am sure my boy @Who Dares Win can provide good vacation spots as well. Go where people are going to get laid and party hard.

4. Look good.

Hard to keep a nice body after 30 but look good, it will take you off the provider list.

I will add more to it, hoping others can add to it too!
Do you find you need to whitemax to get laid? Whitemaxing sounds easier than losing 50 lbs or other types of looksmaxing. I am like over 250 lbs with bf of 27% but its easier to just get a haircut for example if my hair looks too Black.
 
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I am 38 and fit. The last couple years have been my best. I am married in a type of open relationship. I play with other women or couples in threesomes. Get involved in the swing lifestyle. Lots of fun open minded women dtf
 

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I am 38 and fit. The last couple years have been my best. I am married in a type of open relationship. I play with other women or couples in threesomes. Get involved in the swing lifestyle. Lots of fun open minded women dtf
I could see this as making sense for an attached guy. There’s a case to be made for open relationships and swinging. The single & unattached guy can’t partake in this, unless he happens to have a platonic female friend he could take to swing clubs or other private swing events.

It is my understanding that the swing community, at least at the public swingers clubs, is mostly middle aged. It is roughly 35-60 year olds.
 

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Not sure where you read that OP. I'm new here but I've never read anything remotely close to what you've described anywhere else. I do sometimes hear discussions that once you're 45, 50, it's much harder to snag women 25 and under, but that's obviously a different discussion.

As far as I can tell, most men hit their prime around 35 or so, and it's not usually a sharp rise and fall either but a gradual rise and fall, unlike women peaking young and then quickly hitting the wall not much later.

The point of discussion that I'd like to bring up is not your ability to attract women as you age, but what type of women (specifically, age), which is a real point of concern for some people. It may be harder to **** an 18 year old at 35 than it was at 21, but your overall value to women will be higher and your selection pool should increase overall. For me though this isn't particularly exciting because I rarely see women in their 30s that are attractive so i'm hoping my ability to land younger women won't be impacted.
 
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Do you find you need to whitemax to get laid? Whitemaxing sounds easier than losing 50 lbs or other types of looksmaxing. I am like over 250 lbs with bf of 27% but its easier to just get a haircut for example if my hair looks too Black.
Straightening your bf will take around 6 months. In 3 months youll be sharp but keep going.
 

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I could see this as making sense for an attached guy. There’s a case to be made for open relationships and swinging. The single & unattached guy can’t partake in this, unless he happens to have a platonic female friend he could take to swing clubs or other private swing events.

It is my understanding that the swing community, at least at the public swingers clubs, is mostly middle aged. It is roughly 35-60 year olds.
We covered this. In swingers world the reality is 90% of males are cvcked. You better be social and built like a Adonis to have a chance.
 
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